how to cope with all this .... misscarrage ...?

Oh darling, I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I don't have the experience to advise you personally, but I would suggest you go to a bereavement forum. Just talking about it with people who understand what you're going through I hope would be helpful.

One I found (which includes miscarriage as well as other forms of bereavement) was http://www.thelightbeyond.com/forum/index.php but I'm sure there are more out there.

My only other suggestion was perhaps creating something as a memorial for all the people in your life that you have lost. It could be anything - a planter in your garden with a different flower for each person, a collage, a painting, a small memorial stone, a quilt, a book, ribbons tied on a tree, whatever you like. I feel as though it could be a good way of keeping busy and channeling your grief into something to remember by.

Anyway, whatever you do end up doing, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

My sympathies and condolences to you , this is indeed a trying time for you. You do know that you are grieving and that grief is just painful. It hurts unbelievably at times like this. Hopefully you mom, who is now also grieving can be support for each other. She just lost her mom, as well. very painful .

So, be supportive to each other.

It can take time for this to pass and sometimes as long as a few years, for these kinds of losses.

This one method helps reduce the pain , but the normal grieving process will be there , just not as painful. Hire someone tohelp if you need to , or use the free version in private according to directions, emofree.com, eftmasters.com, eftuniverse.com

There are support groups for parents who have lost children due to still birth or misscarriage: here, dailystrength.org and you can 'search ' 'still birth support (insert your city and state/or place)

I think you and your mom could come up with a memorial site for each of them, even plant a tree with a plaque or something and have your own memorial site and ceremony. very important you do that for your children also.

Even in ou don't talk, just let each other know you are there for each other.

give her the method Ijust gave you or learn it together and use it together, more support .

If you need more than that, then talke to Hospice in your area and find out what grief counselors are available.

Anti depressants will not help you , they are placebos, so find some natural aids, to help you relax and sleep , unless you just want to see a doctor .

take care of yourselves and you already know that certain things , like mothers day , can be painful for each of you.

Be grateful for something, about eachday, and remember the good things, they gave you some happiness already and maybe that is all they were suppose to do, now you can bless them to heaven and to do and be where they are suppose to be.

You will eventually feel better, take care of yourselves.