Abusive relationship ? Help!?

Get OUT of the relationship. He is controlling you and being mentally abusive so it is NOT going to get better only worse. You need to end it NOW and start your life again. If he starts to say he will change, he will NOT. If he starts to make threats then file for a restraining order. You CAN do it. Tell your parents, tell your friends and get help.

You either need to have a little talk with him or get rid of him asap. I know you say you love him but this is seriously just how my sister's relationship went and now she has a kid and the guy upped and left because she didn't do what he told her to do. It started out just like yours, telling her what to wear and when to wear it. It got worse when he told her that she couldn't come and see me or her friends. He yelled at her for just looking in a friendly way towards other guys, and that soon became hitting.

A guy should NEVER control you in a relationship. He is not your dad. He can not tell you what to do and what to wear and who to talk to. You need to set him straight and tell him that "look, this is the way I'm gonna do things and if you don't like it, then don't let the door hit ya on the way out honey!"

Put aside your emotions and really try to understand what Im about to tell you. Because you love him, your heart will get defensive when hearing the truth but here it is: This guy is trying to isolate you from people, because he is insecure and wants to be the only person you have. This is the first step towards abuse. He doesnt want to share you with your loved ones, or for you to be seen by the world. He would like for you to be his exclusive personal property with no one else to turn to when he decides to put his hands on you, which inevitably will happen if you slowly but surely allow him to tyrannize you. The thing is, he probably doesnt even see that hes heading in that direction, in his mind all of his behavior is rational, abuse is usually a very gradual process, and you can get stuck like quick sand, better to get out now while you can.

You should put your feelings for him aside and leave him.. if he loved you he would accept you and become a part of your social group not try to isolate you from everyone you care about and turn you into a totally different person by changing everything about you even the way you dress. If a man feels he needs to change you then your not really the one he wants because he should have fallen in love with you for who you are not for what he could mold you into. Good luck I wish you the best

Hey Samantha,

You are in HIgh School, and you have your whole life ahead of you. I know that you love this guy, but, if he makes you ditch your friends, he doesn't love you. You need to get out of this relationship ASAP! If he is telling you what to do, and who you can be friends with there is a problem. Get out of the relationship before it gets worse.

Best of Luck.

GET OUT NOW!!!

it will only get worse

why would you want a man like that??

any guy that makes you ditch your buddies will and i PROMISE this to you

HIT you

so leave today

save yourself

you are worth so MUCH more

sweetie, you need to get the hell out of there, it just will get worse, I'm in sort of the same situation, except he doesn't do that, he just gets mad if I talk to my family or friends, but I set him straight and now he's changing. Try talking to him ?

You are in an abusive relationship, time to remove yourself..seek professional intervention, speak to your school's counselor.

tell him that you have a life beside him and you can't always be with him, but also with your friends...

Well I wouldn't marry him if I were you