Would it be rude to refuse to go to a funeral?

If you did not know her and are not related in any way you need not go. Bow out by saying you don't want to get in between him and his family in the brief time he has with them during the day. Just insist he should go without you and you'd be in the way: "Please go, reconnect, I don't want to interfere...' etc

This is a family matter so don't feel pressured as you aren't "family".

Sometimes, etiquette doesn't come into it and you have to do what is right by you.

Tell him that you feel that it's private family business and you would feel uncomfortable being there.

It would be different if you were his wife, but he shouldn't expect you to be there if not as you aren't "family" (although it would be decent of you to go to a funeral at his request if he was particularly upset and needed your support).

My husbands grandpa died just after we moved in together and I didn't go to the funeral. It wasn't expected of me as I wasn't family, (we weren't married) and I'd never met his grandpa.

My hubby's family are extremely old fashioned and are very big on etiquette and always doing "the right thing" so if that was poor etiquette then it wouldn't have been acceptable for me not to be there.

Be sure to let him know that if it was a close family member and he needed emotional support from you, then of course you'd be there, but on this occassion it wouldn't feel right to you.

Good luck x

Extraordinary, i am an organ donor and for research to get what's left of me. If there is some thing left after that to cremate, I idea i might have my ashes laid out in lines and everyone at the funeral would get a straw. At the same time everyone is getting a nostril filled with me, I might be filling the room with my eulogy on tape. RScott

It is really rude not to go funeral with your man what kind of girl wouldn't support her man even his family doesn't know her. That way u cud get to know his family

If u dun want to pay petrol or neither. Even u get to know his family. Atleast be there for him

Some day u be glad u went funeral with him he will look back said yeh she supported me.

Darling be there for him !

Yes, of course there's an etiquette issue. There are lots of issues here. Your boyfriend has asked you to go to his grandmother's funeral with him. Who cares whether they were close or not? Who cares whether you knew the woman or not? Do you or do you not care enough for your boyfriend to support him when he asks you to? Your say you want to "refuse" to go, and the only reason you give is that you don't want to waste your day. I think you're behaving appallingly selfishly.

If you do not want to go then don't go! you never knew her,why would you go? tell him you won't be going and you will see him when he gets back,that's it!

Don't go and don't feel guilty about it.

You didn't know the woman and it sounds like your partner hardly knew her either.

I wouldn't go if I were you. From what I understand, he doesn't give a f*ck to begin with himself so there's no reason why you should.

No, you do not need to go. He doesn't seem to care himself, so why should you?

yes, go to it and tell old people ur next