How can you prevent your kindness being taken advantage of?

If you temper your kindness, is it then still kindness? Be who you are. To be taken advantage of is not your sin, but theirs.

Just be honest. Be kind but when you feel someone is taking advantage of your kindness, nip it in the bud, just say "now you're trying to take advantage of my good nature, and that ain't gonna happen." Be definite about it. If they start to argue or disagree with your statement, just shrug and walk away because that's how you felt and so stick with it. Most people who use other people are real real good at justifying their demands and transferring the guilt or blame onto you--just don't allow that to happen. It may mean you will sometimes have to show your prickly, steely side but so be it. And if you are consistent every time, people will begin to understand that you have your limits and to not try to push you beyond that. You can still be kind most of the time, just know where your own limits are and stick to them, don't let others push you around.

People have to earn your trust. Real friends do not take advantage of people. Get to know your friends before you go ahead and give of yourself. You need to realize that your real friends will accept no for an answer. People who are only out to use you will stop being your friend if you are of no use to them.

Stop being so giving. Life is not a popularity contest where you have to prove yourself as a nice person by being taken advantage of.

No one can take advantage of you without you allowing them to do so.

You would have to be a prophet in order to avoid being taken advantage of. Just be kind to people. Jehovah expects it from us (Compare Galatians 5:22, 23). He does not want us to be taken advantage of. But, really, that is not our problem. When we are being kind, we are doing as we are supposed to. Jehovah will pay back to those who have caused evil to His people, do not fear (Romans 12:17-21).

If 5 persons take advantage of my kindness( If i do have some.) and 1 is NOT taking advantage , I'll continue as i am .I do not want to miss this ONE person.

I had the same problem so I tell ppl stories or things ive done to people who screwed me over in the past so they know not to take advantage of me.. My approach probably isnt the best but its in my nature to want be nice and be there for people

Set some rules and limits and stick to them. For example, my rule is that I don't loan anyone money. Money is one of those things that it becomes too easy to be too generous with. And second rule is to have a close confident. If you feel someone is taking advantage of you, having a close confident can sometimes put things in perspective.

Others should feel or know about you that "you are vigilant and active". But my experience says that liberal attitude can't prevent others to take advantage.

i have had this same issue so i very much feel your pain. its painful isnt it? :/ but yeah this sounds bad but ive found that being more cynical and just not trusting people straight up helps a lot. i trust very few people and even with them im very reluctant because people ive trusted and loved deeply in the past have ****** me over so yeah. thats life. i dont let me guard down as much now. im still the same me that i always was, but im just more careful. dont go out of your way to do things for people who you dont trust.

I cannot. I get used very often. But it is those who do me wrong that should feel the shame. I often wonder how folks can look their kids in the eyes and tell them to be good citizens when they themselves conspire to do others wrong.