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Should I run away with my boyfriend?

Okay. Long story short, we've been together for 2 years, been through everything you can imagine, but we aren't allowed to see each other or talk, but we do anyway. We just found out he's terminally ill, and has maybe 4-8 months left to live. I hate my life at home. And I need to spend the remaining time with him. We have everything planned out and we will make it. I'm beyond suicidal and depressed and I feel like if I don't go with him while he's dying, I'm probably going to hurt myself. Permanently. I'm really considering it but I just don't know what to do.

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  • 8 years ago
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    This is a really rough/tough situation you got on your hands. For one, his diagnosis may not be as terrible as you think. He could live longer but with the info you have you need to make the time you have meaningful. If that means running away, I say you should do it, if its safe and you two have it planned out. I wouldn't normally agree with this but in this situation I think you should, if you guys have stuff figured out. But, be prepared for the backlash that may come from it, if he is this ill he could need medical attention at any time, so be prepared to spend some time in hospitals. He may also not feel like doing much at times so everything may not go exactly as you guys plan.

    Just be careful, I don't know where you plan on running away to, but you will have no support system if you are running away from your family and parents. So its not going to be a dream get away money and everything will still be involved believe me I have wanted to just run away and drive until I never see my hometown again, but then I get slapped with reality. ITS EXPENSIVE to do anything like that. I would leave your families notes saying you are leaving and why. You don't necessarily have to say much more but just disappearing will cause panic at least give them some info.

    Good luck, you have a rough road ahead kid. I'm not sure how old you are but I just hope you know what you are getting yourself into and how hard its going to be, it won't all be a walk in the park.

  • 8 years ago

    That's a really difficult situation. Why is it that you can't see each other or talk? Maybe if you let your parents know the situation with him and how he is sick, that could change their minds? I know this seems like a good idea with his illness and the fact you are feeling depressed at home, but you could get into trouble for running away. I am not sure how old you are, but if you run away there could be consequences for that. Are you willing to deal with that when you guys do end up getting back from running away? If he is terminally ill, does he have to be in the hospital or make trips there? Because if so, it may not be smart to just drop everything and run. That won't always fix the problem, you know? I am so sorry that this is your situation, because it just seems like you're being dealt a tough hand. You are already seeing your boyfriend even though you aren't supposed to. Keep doing that instead of running away? I know you feel like hurting yourself, but it really is not the answer. Your boyfriend's life is being cut short, and I am sure he would want to keep living and to not have this illness. Don't cut your life short, too. And don't ever feel like hurting yourself is the answer, because whether you believe it now or not, things can get better. I'm sorry that you're in this situation. Just think things through before you go make any decisions that could effect you. Good luck.

  • 8 years ago

    Dam that's a tuff call but if it were me I'd do it but after he passes you might not have anywhere to go dam I am really sorry for you sweetheart

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