I have become a totally submissive husband?

My ex was submissive. I wanted him to take more of a leadership role, but I'm not sure he knew how or even wanted to. In some ways, I think being submissive is easy because then you get to not take responsibility. Eventually, I think he grew tired of being "submissive" (even though I was literally PRAYING that he'd find his voice), and he left me. He left without a discussion or anything. It was just over. He left me to handle all the responsibility of our finances, the house, everything. He basically ran.

If you truly want more balance and control, then the first thing to do is to sit your wife down (literally), and look her in her face (literally) and tell her that you are not happy. Tell her that you feel like you don't have a voice and that from now on, you have to be consulted on any major decisions being made in the household. No one can take your power. You give it away by not speaking up or by not demanding to be heard.

In my case, I would have WELCOMED my ex to be more involved and make some decisions. But you have to understand that responsibility is going to come with your control. You can't just make decisions, voice your opinion and have no responsibility. I think the two are somehow related.

Submissive Husband

I have been submissive to my wife for about a year and now have the best sex we ever had. I get up ech day hoping she will let me touch and lick her and she do the same to me. I can only *** when she allows it, so as far as I am concerned it is the best thing that has happened to our marriage

You need to start take control of your household. You are the head of the household. You both are partners and must work together. You must be honest with your feelings or one day you are going to loose your cool. If she wont able to listen to you, this should be a sign that you shouldn't be together. Submissive doesn't mean being a dictator.

The horses may be out of the gate on this since you have let it go on so long, but I would tell her exactly how all this is making you feel. Then tell her that if it continues, you may have to take further action in seeking a solution, like temporarily leaving her until you can go to counseling together.

Contrary to what that inconsiderate star fish priv says, you're in a rather Enigmatic situation.

I'm guessing you've sat in your man cave or closet nest, whatever you call it where you live, and really put a lot of thought into this.

The best thing for you to do is NOT eat when she tells you to eat... that will be the beginning of you breaking the Enigmatic cycle you're in.

DON'T LEAVE HER! talk to her, human is able to talk and tell the problem, maybe it could be solved, of course you both have feelings to each other, and if she loves you she should try to change, AND you have to change YOURSELF too, 50% is your fault, and try to make a good life, for both of you

(and dont care that much about the others opinion about your life, try to live the way you enjoy )

good luck

Careful...

You're going to end up being dressed up as a cat, set on a toilet and then have pictures taken of you.

Your best bet is to leave her...someone like that isn't going to change. She's only going to torture you. You need to tell her exactly what you told us, that you're not going to deal with her controlling you or roughing you up anymore. You both are adults and it's time for you both to start acting like it.

Still, I'd leave her.

Give in. Buy her a male chastity device and have her lock you up.