I feel like a fifth wheel.?

I presume they may be discussing the children? If so, you have really little or no right to be worried in the discussion except for any determination that straight influences you. Do you even ought to be present when the discussions take place? If my ex- had been to remarry i would come to be fairly resentful if her new partner determined to get too carefully involved my selection-making rights in the case of my daughter. And i presume the children reside with the ex- and not you? If so, your partner has to place some effort into preserving the ex- on-side. It is not that approach, however while the youngsters are young the guardian-with-house has an unnatural leverage over the absent mum or dad. Despite the fact that they do not deliberately use it, it is nonetheless there. Being a step-parent is a worrying concern, it can be an inequality between you and your partner. You must take a seat down together with your spouse and obviously comprehend your function, possibly even talk over with a excellent therapist who can support define applicable boundaries.

Good communication is the key to a good, long-lasting relationship.

Not telling him that you'd like to hang out with him ALONE is poor communication.

You need to tell him and tell him you don't like being around him when he smokes pot. If he's a good boyfriend, he'll respect that and not smoke around you.

I really do love him. Sorry you fell in love with the wrong person. I just don't wanna hurt his feelings by telling him He sure as hell doesn't consider your feelings. I don't know what to do at this point. I feel left out. I say it's time to take back your heart he doesn't deserve it.