Leaving home for college soon, but my mom and boyfriend don't think that I can take care of myself?

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So next week I'm starting my first day in college. The college I'm going to is about 6 hours journey by car. It's a big city and I'm going to live there alone. I have some relatives about an hour away but they have their own families to handle. I'm kind of excited because it's my first time being away from my family but in the same time I also feel scared because the city I'm going to live in is notorious for its crime rate...especially robbery and murder. 

I've always wanted to be independent, and here's the chance for me, right?

But then came my mom. She always told me that she doesn't trust me living alone. She said that each time she's mad at me about something. She told me that I can't do my chores right and I'll only embarrass them in front of my housemates. That's ridiculous because all these years, since I was a kid I was trained by my mom to do chores - do the laundry, clean the house, cook, etc etc but she was the one who was never satisfied of my work. She's a perfectionist and in her eyes, everyone else makes mistakes except for her. 

My boyfriend, in the other hand, is too worried that I might end up being one of the girls who's always drinking and clubbing and he's especially afraid of me cheating on him. I've never cheated on my boyfriend, I love him so much. But he never really trust me. He's very insecure and he's always been afraid that I'd look for another better-looking guy. 

I feel really stressed about them, they make me feel worried about myself and now I'm losing confidence about myself. I mean, none of them seems to support me. My dad is always there for me but my mom and boyfriend - they're both bringing me down! What can I do?

niknaks · Accepted Answer

My mum and stepdad were the same, however my situation was different. I was 17yrs old and had a 6wk old daughter and I was going to live by myself. They thought so 'bad' of me, as if I couldn't do all the housework etc. 

I always knew I could but my parents always doubted me. It is a big responsibility, cooking, cleaning, budgeting your shopping, bills, rent etc, but it can be done. And on top of all that I have a daughter to feed, change, bath, entertain etc, you have college work to do. Simples.

Your parents may doubt you, but if you believe in yourself then thats all you need - prove them wrong!

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Anonymous · Answer

So smile and ignore them. It's only a week.

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Leaving home for college soon, but my mom and boyfriend don't think that I can take care of myself?

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