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Is it normal for my girlfriend to be thinking about someone else during sex?

I'm in a same-sex relationship. I'm 21. She's 19. We've been dating about 2 months (not long). The other day we were with her friends and this kid shows up. Someone who she first had sex with, who she hasn't seen in a couple months/years(?). And I didn't find out he was her first until that day. Little heads up woulda been nice. So I was a little stand off-ish and jealous. Now when we have sex, I keep thinking that she's fantasizing about him.

Am I overreacting?

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  • 8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Maybe talk to her about it? My opinion is if she wanted to have sex with this other person she would but she doesn't want to becasue she likes/loves you. Not them. i think it'd be best to talk to her about it.

  • binnix
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    The only thing I believe about for the period of sex is entertaining her and no longer coming lol rather then that my mind doesn't sway to different thoughts.. U guys need to take a seat down and speak to one an extra very severely and u must inform her now not precisely how u feel rationale she's going to without doubt get pissed hhaha however just that u think u two will have to are attempting some thing new tell her some fantasies of yours and ask her to make it real with you hehe all u want is that fireside put back into position

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You could be over reacting but women use mental thoughts/images more often like how men use physical things to get off so if she is thinking of other things it's not cheating she is still with you its just what some chicks do when they have sex

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    Yes, you're thinking to hard. Just because she once had sex with a guy doesn't mean she misses it enough to fantasize about him in particular. Maybe she may fantasize about haivng a real penis inside her, that's about all.

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  • Andy
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    It's perfectly natural for her to be thinking of the important natural sex with a man during her actions with you.

    Source(s): Common sense, female + male = natural.
  • 8 years ago

    THATS VERY BAD. shes having sex with you n thinkinh about a diff guy?! omg shes totally not into you. this is so bad. this means that she rather have sex with the other guy. OH NO

    plz asnwer mine ILL AnSWER YOURS!

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  • 8 years ago

    the best thing to do is calmly and nicely confront her about it she may take it the wrong way but just tell her its worrying you and that you dont want to argue you just need to know that she is thinking about you

  • 8 years ago

    hun if she wanted to have sex with him she would but shes not

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    maybe not. ask her what she thinks of him now.

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