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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 8 years ago

what should i do? please help me...?

me and my boyfriend...we both are in class 12 and were preparing for medical entrance exam... now the result is out..and i cleared it and he dint...i love him a lot. before the exam we had palnned that if we dont get admission we would drop an year..and study for it again...i know we cant remain in a relationship if i go to college...and he drops an year...but i really really love him..i told him that i will too drop with you...and it cheered him up a bit...but my parents are soo much forcing me to not leave this oppurtunity as it really tough to clear the exam...how can i explain to them...i cant really be ever happy without him..i love him soo much...but how can i face the whole world telling me that i am mad o leave this oppurtunity....how can i give soo much pain to my parents and i feel so guilty everytime i see their happy faces..but how can i take admission and hurt my bf..i love him so much..i know he wont be able to prepare again without me....i feel as if i have ruined his life...i wish that i would die...and not face this....one side is my family and one side is my love...and i feel that i dont know what i want... on one side i feel happy and then guilty that how could i when my bf is soo sad..and one side i cry so much and just wish that i hadnt cleared the exam..it would have been so much easier...how can success be so bitter? i wish for failure..i wish to die..i cant make everyone happy...what should i do..?

Update:

its not that he is unintelligent or something...he worked hard for it too.....and i feel he was much more worthy of getting admission...but it just wasnt his day that day..and it all went wrong...i really love him...and i believe he would also have done that for me...maybe he would have done that soo easily without thinking so much..

Update 2:

i am not justifying or anything...wont it not be so difficult for him to keep on talking to me when hell see there where we both aspired to be....if i go to college..and still ask him to talk to me...everytime we will talk..he would be reminded of this...how can i be so cruel to him...even if i breakup and movre on..i know he will be ruined and get depressed..i dont wont to make him sad,,,he already is...even his friends think that its because of me that he cudnt get through

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  • 8 years ago
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    Honestly, not criticizing your love or bond with your boy friend,however if it is true love and meant to last irrespective of the distance or time apart there is nothing that can come between you.

    And please don't take an irrational decisions, think of it this way would he have done the same if u failed and he cleared. be rational respect the opportunity you have gotten and become the Doctor you deserve.

    In the end everything happens for a reason and you getting through and him not hmmm...take it like a test of time...

    All the best.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    My dear,

    In my opinion you should choose to go to college; not because your parents want to "force" you but because I think it is the right decision for your life.

    I think that if your guy is not willing to stay with you in relation ship only because you go to a different building to learn he isn't worth it because I think he wouldn't stay back for you either (even if he claims now he would).

    Love is not only physical. Maybe there is a possibility to meet every weekend or at least once in a week. (Hell, I married my guy who was on a different continent and I managed and now afterwards we're happy together again).

    Also there is an other aspect if you finish your degree faster, it will be You who can support him. Life is not always easy, so it's a good idea.

    As final thought I want you to ask yourself >What will you do if your boyfriend will fail again in the next entrance exam?<. These things can happen. Are you willing to wait forever then?

    In the very end I want to tell you: "Your life is precious. God gave it to you. If you suicide you murder a human; it s a crime!"

    I hope my thoughts helped you to make a decision.

    Source(s): my life
  • 8 years ago

    If your bf really loves you and you can be happy together for a life time, then being apart for a while is one of the challenges the life throws at you. If he really loves you, he'll be the one to be upset because of your dropping out, which is an opportunity of a life time to be wasted by him, and a true bf always wants the best to come to his love, right? And he'll likely hate himself for being such an obstacle on your road to a better future. And your parents want the best for you, Med uni test isn't something that you can pass everytime you take, so treasure what you've already had and be sympathetic towards your parents, who pay for your education, raised you, and they have the right to be proud of a daughter who got in a university. If you think he's the harbor of your boat, who makes you have to give up on that once-in-a-lifetime chance and your parents expectations, make sure he's the one and only love of your life. The decision lies in your hands. Choose wisely.

    Best of luck.

  • 8 years ago

    You keep on. If you love him he will stay for you. You just make sure to be there when he needs you.

    He can meet you in the next year, if he qualifies. Believe in yourself and the guy.

    Maintain a long distance relationship. I am sure it will be good.

    Source(s): Heart
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  • 8 years ago

    I suggest you admit yourselves in the college. If your boyfriend really loves you then he would really want you to go to college. And hey you are not being cruel to him. And also studying in college going to be any selfish act. Career comes first. If he loves you, he would respect your decision.

    You can help him in his studies.

  • 8 years ago

    If he loves you so much, he would want you to go to college. If you truly love each other, you'll be able to maintain a relationship while you're in college.

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