How to convince my wife to wear proper clothes?

This seems like a sensitive area for her, so you need to tread very carefully. A cold hard approach may make things much worse; whereas, guidance tampered with mercy, tact, and wisdom is the better way.

It is important to keep in mind that she is a human being with feelings and insecurities, not a robot. Advise her in the best manner to wear modest clothes and take it step-by-step so she can get accustomed and comfortable.

The crux of the issue here though is an issue of *knowledge* of the deen. If she doesn't understand the purpose of hayaa and its hikma, it will be very difficult for her. So, I advise (if you are knowledgeable) to talk to her about how Islam dignifies women through modesty. If not, you may try to get a knowledgeable wise female relative to talk to her.

Salam You can convince your wife for wearing hijab or jilbab by showing the related verses in the Qur'an where Allah instructs women to cover their privy parts or auwrah so only their face and arms can be seen by others such as surah 7 Al Araaf verse 26,31,32 surah 24 An Nuur verse 30,31 and surah 33 Al Ahzab verse 59 Besides that they should lower their gaze and show modesty wearing hijab based on 33:59 is mandatory Tell your wife that her actual clothes is not good in the eyes of Allah Her shape of her body could not be shown so she should wear clothes not so tight and no transparent You must buy her a good Muslimah clothes You must tel her if she opens her body to others she would not smell the perfume of heaven based on hadith She must mingle with pious Muslim women and you must bring her to the mosque and listen to Islamic sermon at least once a week.

She is TRYING to wear PROPER clothes. It's your crazy Muslin beliefs that are the problem. In the real world, men have no control over their wives. They can wear what they want, go where they want to (alone, without an male relative), drive cars, wear bikinis, mini skirts, tight pants, etc, in public. Don't marry the woman and make a slave out of her (unless that's what SHE wants).

Asalamu alaikum Brother,

May Allah swt keep both of you on the straight path. Ameen.

Brother, if your wife reverted because of her love for Allah swt and her love of Islam, then inshAllah, this will be a natural decision for her. Once she learns about her deen she will quickly see that this is fard, just like the five daily prayers. Hijab is not just about the headscarf, it is an entire mode. Someone who years to be close to Allah swt naturally strives to do what is right. As you encourage her to learn the kalimas, surahs, how to pray etc, you should encourage her to observe hijab.

However, women are commanded by Islam to wear cloth that covers the whole body, including hair, except the face and the hands. That cloth:

should not be so tight to describe the woman body , and

should not be so transparent to make the under cloth visible.

I would say that if your wife is openly disregarding you and the promises that she has made to you, it may be that she has lost respect for you for some reason and is abandoning her duties as a form of rebellion towards you. I would advise that before you resort to divorce or any extreme measures that you have an open and honest discussion with her about how she feels in regard to Islam and what her intentions are. Off-times, when people are trying to change their lifestyle (such as going from a not-very-religious life to a religious life), it is important to manage that change for them and provide some happiness and love for them and remember to have joy, and conversation in your lives together rather than just sit at home and refuse to interact with the outside world.

All people need their fair share of laughter, of fun and of happiness - they need to be able to forget for a little while the stresses of things, sit in the sunshine and breathe fresh air. Many people forget this when they decide consciously to live a religious life: feeling that a religious life is a boring, serious contemplation of Allah, when actually there is much joy and happiness in a religious life, and in a married life as well. Many people also stop trying after marriage, feeling like they have completed some goal and not realising that marriage is the beginning not the result of our efforts.

It could be that your wife is missing the uplifting parts of life and is looking for them outside of the home as she cannot find them in the home and in the rules of marriage and Islam. If you can show her that the Islamic life is just as full of sunshine & laughter then she will not feel that she is missing anything. If you inspire her she will develop towards the Islamic life with a love for it in her heart, rather than being dragged toward it with resentment.

Many people rely very heavily on rulings to make their marriage work and to create respect and love in the marriage - when actually, a successful relationship needs to be created by the people in it, with solid foundations and love and mercy for each other - without this bond between the two of you, the rulings will only serve to produce disappointment in your hearts, but if you put effort into maintaining peace and joy between you as a couple, you will see a great change in the way you communicate with your wife and the way that she hears what you are saying and responds to you - and the rulings appear automatically between you without the need for implementation.

Oh, don't forget to integrate her into a masjid.

May Allah swt reward you for enjoining her to what is right.Ameen.

Man this is your responsibility since you agreed to marry her. Hijab nowadays is a serious and sensitive problem in Islam, and i noticed that when i started to go to religious lectures. You shouldn't marry her if you no that this will happen to you because you will stand that day infront of God, and you will be asked.. I think the best way to change her mind is to take her to religious lecture like in Aushora, then ENSHALLAH she will accept hijab....

If you dont like what your wife wears why did you marry her?

Oh hello I'm going to marry you, You're so lovely... *MARRIAGE* Please change everything about yourself to suit my needs. Your wife should divorce you.