we both have fully furnished houses how do we ask for cash and gift cards as wedding gifts?

You don't ask for anything. People will know enough that if there is no registry, they should give money. Although some people will give you physical gifts.. and you need to be thankful for those as well.

You never ask for money.

It is not considered proper wedding etiquette to ask for money or gifts of any kind. Gift registries can go in shower invitations only and then again it must not be gift cards; however, if one does not have a registry people tend to give money or gift cards. The best way is word of mouth, tell Mom, MOH and ask a few friends what to do as you have a lots of things and that you are going to combine what you can but will need to purchase other items, like you really don't know what to do or the proper way to do it and perhaps they will also help spread the word. Anyone with half sense knowing you have two households should want to give money, not knowing what you have in the two houses and what you may need when you consolidate.

For the first thing.. Haters - get over yourselves please.. Have some respect and consideration, alot of the time these days ppl her a house/home set up prior to marriage.. It's not ur place to judge!.. Evolve ppl!

To answer your question, I for one am building a house (going into major debt) just before my wedding and also need money more then material gifts.. I am registering with a travel agent for our honey moon and ask that ppl contribute to this if they wish to give a gift .. The amounts are anonymous and ppl don't feel pressured to buy big gifts so they don't look cheap.. Also a wishing well works wonders as they only drop a blank envelope in and write in he registry book.. No pressure..

Hope I've helped you :)

You don't address gifts in any manner whatsoever. You certainly don't ask for money from your guests. It's rude and presumptuous to do so.

Guests give gifts out of generosity. THEY get to choose what they want to give you. If that's cash, great. If it's a butt ugly wall hanging, you better be equally grateful and ecstatic.

Don't register for gifts. People will take the hint and give cash if they want to give cash. Some will probably still give a different type of gift.

You don't. Gifts should never be taken for granted as they are completely at the gift giver's discretion. If your guests want to give you something, they will, if they don't, they don't. You should never assume that you are entitled to gifts at all. As for telling them WHAT to give you, that is just completely gauche and rude.

You never ever tell people what they can and can not get you.

even as sleeping suggest telling to them to donate to a charity. IF I want to donate to a charity I will. You can not tell me as your guest that is what I need to do for your gift.

Do not register at any store. IF any guest ASKS you or your parents direct what can they get you, then and only then you can say a gift card would be fine.

Most guest do not bring a wrapped gift to a wedding any longer.

You don't. The purpose of wedding gifts is to set up your home together. Since you have everything you need to set up a martial home x2, then you don't get any wedding gifts.

You dont. That would be pretty selfish. I hope you dont feel attacked. Just let the guest give you what ever they what.

You don't. Don't make a gift registry. When people ask where you are registered, tell them you aren't. They'll either give you cash, a gift, or nothing.

Forgive me for being blunt, but that is disgustingly materialistic. If you have what you need ask your guests to donate toward a cause you both believe in. Weddings used to be about celebrating a milestone with your loved ones. Now it's about showing off and soliciting money.