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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 8 years ago

Do I walk away from my best friend?

I would appreciate your opinions as I'm very hurt by my girlfriend's behavior towards me. My girlfriend and I have been best friends for 8 years (she's 26, I'm 25). We've shared a lot and have always been there for each other. During this whole time (and before meeting her) my girlfriend has never been in a relationship with a guy, she meets them but it never works out. I thought it would be a good idea to arrange for her and a good guy friend of mine to get together and see if something could develop. After 3 dates in 1 month my guy friend ended it due to not having much in common. My girlfriend was upset and told me she didn't want me to tell her anything pertaining to my friendship with him. Of course, I continued my friendship with him and went on our usual various outings together as we did prior to him meeting my girlfriend. I didn't it tell her about it since she made it clear she didn't want to know. She called me one day asking why I was with him (someone saw us when were out and told her about it)and why I didn't tell her about it. I told her, I was respecting her wishes and I had nothing to hide. She preferred that I stop going out with him in case it would develop into something more than friendship. She wanted me to promise this would not happen. I told her, I don't need to call her and ask for permission of when to see him, nor do I have a crystal ball of the future. This happened 2 weeks ago, since then, I left her a voicemail message and I text her asking to get together and talk this out. I received a very hurtful, accusatory and judgmental text message ending it by saying she is blocking me from replying and cut contact. Needless, to say, I feel very hurt and very harshly misjudged as I have always been there for her.

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  • 8 years ago
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    I really understand how you feel. And it wasn't right of her to act so harshly to you and tell you who to meet and not to meet.

    But she probably feels like you're taking his 'side'. And she wants you to only be loyal to her or something.

    You did ask to talk it out but she didn't. So it's her loss for a great friend! Don't feel down or hurt by her words- she's just saying it out of anger and probably doesn't mean them a hundred percent.

    Hope I helped- even if just a little.

  • 6 years ago

    You have no business saying my marriage may not last and acting like I should just not care about hurtful things when it sounds like you have a ton of issues with your personal relationships and you literally said you felt hurt and judged. It's easy to dish out a bunch of crap behind a computer and sound like a know it all with everything together isn't it?

  • 8 years ago

    wow. she sounds like she has some unresolved issues. it sounds to me like you too need to try and talk this out. your obviously being the adult in this situation. if i were you i would respect her wishes to cut contact and let her have a breather and calm down. you never know she may start talking to you again.

    however it sounds like she likes her drama and it may be time to let her go as she may just cause more trouble than she is worth

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    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    Maybe shes cutting you out of her life for a reason

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