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Nouran asked in Social ScienceSociology · 8 years ago

I Was sexually harassed as a child ?

I was 9-10 years old when this happened there was this painter that was painting our house so he was staying in for 3 weeks

Anyways on his 4th day of work he just popped out of no where and he just kept fondling touching kissing everywhere of my body at this moment i was confused just stood still and my brain was off i dint no what to do i was numb i didnt feel anything, he was doing this constantly for all the time he was working and then we didnt meet again thank to god but before he leave . He pushed me to the wall and pinned there and was touching me really with violence and power that i cried it was very painfull

I am now 14 years old and i am really scared of men and aviod them every where and i hated when any boy come close to me . I get flashbacks which are destroying me from inside i get severe migraines lightheaded raced heartbeat and nightmares sleeping problems (insomnia) i am feeling shame guilt lonely isolated

I get panic attacks

Oh god i really want this to end HOW WOULD I HELP MYSELF?

Update:

i have told a parent but it was tottaly ignored

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  • 8 years ago
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    Something similar happened to me when I was little. If you want him to be arrested or something and you can find his information and stuff you should call the police. They don't how long it's been, they'll still look into it. Just remember that there is no evidence, a lot of people won't believe you, you'll have to see him again, investigators will be somewhat intrusive and you have to be willing to tell them everything you can. And the problem might never go away; I feel extremely sick every time I'm in the presence of a boy but I just had to learn to live with it because it's been a few years and I think things like that give you permanent trauma. Good luck.

  • Jody
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    Make a copy of your question here and hand it to a teacher or guidance counselor or the nurse at school. Your parents mey not be able to hear you, but these professionals will, and they'll work to get you the help you need and deserve.

    It's possible you have post-traumatic stress disorder from ongoing sexual abuse by this pedophile who was painting. You did nothing wrong. The man who hurt you is a very sick individual.

  • 8 years ago

    Tell your parents what happened, you can still prosecute this man. On The Threshold of Hope by Diane Langberg or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder by Mark Goulston would be good books for you to read in therapy. If you don't overcome this it will haunt you for your whole life, so get into counseling and deal with this. I am sorry for what happened, you didn't deserve that.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    It's probably best to talk to someone about the way you're feeling. There are lots of organisations out there for the victims of abuse, of many forms. It may also help to seek help professionally too, to help you overcome the stress of the situation. Stay strong :)

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Child-on-child sexual abuse refers to a form of child sexual abuse in which a prepubescent child is sexually abused by one or more other children or adolescent youths, and in which no adult is directly involved. The term has been defined as sexual activity between children that occurs "without consent, without equality, or as a result of coercion".[1] This includes when one of the children uses physical force, threats, trickery or emotional manipulation to elicit cooperation. Child-on-child sexual abuse is further differentiated from normative sexual play or anatomical curiosity and exploration (i.e. "playing doctor") because of overt and deliberate actions directed at sexual stimulation or orgasm.[2] In many instances, the initiator exploits the other child's naïveté, and the victim is unaware of the nature of what is happening to them. When sexual abuse is perpetrated by one sibling upon another, it is known as "intersibling abuse".[3]

  • 8 years ago

    First of all, tell your parents. Then get a therapist. You won't be able to heal on your own.

  • 8 years ago

    Tell your parents

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