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Relationship Advice (Should I stay or Should I go?)?
I have never had to ask for help on much in my life (Keep in mind im 19) but this I cant seem but to remain clueless on what to do. I recently became a college Freashman and now own my own apartment, I moved 8 hours across state to attend college with hope of transfering to another one on the other side of the country come Junior year. I had this planned out for a while and am really excited, well the deadline is approaching but now I have this Girlfriend, best friend really. We just had our 7 months and now idk what to do. I feel I love her, shes the first actual long term relationship i have ever had, but how can i be sure i am in love? you know if I havent had any other long term relationships yet, how can I compare what love feel like?. MAybe I am or maybe I'm not. Anyways the deadlone to apply for a transfer is approaching, if met I could apply and transfer in Janruary 2014, but leave my gf or I could wait and transfer one year from now or just not transfer at all and stay here to graduate with my gf. But than if I stay that puts my hopes, dreams and plans down the drain for me, and I couldnt ask my gf to do the same for me, i just couldnt.. So here is where I am lost and need advice. I also dont believe it'd be fair to bring her along and hope we stay together cause what if we don't, than she made a HUGE move for nothing. This girl means the world to me, I love her so much and couldnt bare to breakup, idek why we would. If i loose her I am also loosing my best friend and to add insult to injury im gunna go to somewhere where I know no one and no one knows me. idek what to do here I am for once a a loss for words or actions. Any advice guys? Could really help
4 Answers
- 8 years ago
Sounds complicated. All I really have to say here is you would know if you we're in love. You wouldn't be seconding guessing the feeling. You've been with this girl 7months, you need to think about what you'd regret more, leaving your girlfriend or giving up your dreams? You might leave your girlfriend, go to the new campus and hate it, but would you regret it? You might give up your dreams to stay with the girlfriend, what if the relationship fell apart, would you regret it? I think you should carry out your plan to move away, carry on your relationship long term, if she loves you, she will understand and that way you can always rekindle your romance when you return home. Think about it.
Source(s): Life. - Anonymous8 years ago
I'm going through the same problem with going to Uni. I think you just need to prioritise which you think you would be happiest with doing, is it possible for you to stay and still do all the things you were hoping to do? Perhaps just go somewhere closer, or if you really are wanting to transfer then long distance relationships are possible if you really love each other and stay in contact. I know it will be hard, but sometimes you have to make these sacrifices. Hope this helps!
- Anonymous8 years ago
Well depends how long it is and where its to...but dont throw aways ur dreams please im begging u.. you 'll regret it. N ur not even sure if she 's the one yet. If she loves u back she ' ll understand annd let u go. U dont have to break up for u to go.so make it work..but dont throw away ur dreams..good opportunities like those are rare. I hope u 'll make a good choice. Goodluck!
Source(s): Me. - Anonymous8 years ago
umm well do what you feel is right. i would stay becasue education is education. no matter were you go youll graduate eventually. if you feel you love her, give it a shot. you never know, she could be your wife. i would stay, but it's your choice. but if you move you can still visit and talk on skype n stuff. but it wont be the same as being next to her. i know how that feels. you wont be able to kiss her when you want to, or hug her. you ll miss her. but its your choice.
