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Am I in love? Or should I break up?

I now am at 8 months with my girlfriend. She was the first girl I ever became sexually involved with. I honestly can say I love her but recently I've been having thoughts of other girls. Like I said she is my first actual long term gf really (I'm 19) and sexual partner. But more and more lately I am now becoming curious of being sexually involved and hooking up with other girls just now that I know I can, more confidence now I guess. But I swear I love this girl at Least i think I do, but how do I know if I truly do love her if I have no one else to compare her too? This is now my debate, I can't bear to hurt her with a breakup and see her cry but am I really in love? Or just stringing her along for the ride?

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    That's just hormones. You want to try sex with different women, but breaking up with her would be a big regret. Why don't you just spice you your sexual life. You have to get used to being with only 1 woman. You're old enough already and in a few years, when real life starts, you won't be able to just break up with someone. Try to repair things first and if it doesn't work out - then put an end. Your relationship can't last forever, for sure, but you don't have such a serious problem right now.

  • 8 years ago

    Sounds to me like you're just a guy. Having feelings for other women is natural. You're young, and this is a prime time in your life to be looking around and having fun, doing guy things. 8 months isn't too long, I would postpone things or end things with your girlfriend and explore the short term dating scene a little more before deciding you want to settle into a long term relationship with her or another woman. I wouldn't say you're in love, but loving her is a possibility. Don't tie yourself down so soon. Do not be ashamed of your natural instincts. You are not doing anything wrong.

  • 8 years ago

    Honestly, if you doubt the relationship even for a second, you're not in love.

    Being sexually involved with someone does usually make you feel a connection with them and even more if they're your first. If you prefer going and hooking up with other girls, go ahead.

    You'd have eyes for nobody else if you truly loved her.

    The longer you wait, the more she'll hurt.

    Source(s): I'm a girl and if I were her, I'd prefer you leave me than have desires for other girls.
  • 8 years ago

    If you question love wouldn't you see the red flag showing? - Just be honest with her. It's better to end things now then to string her along. You're still young and should explore your opportunities while you can. (The reason why I try to stay away from relationships..) Friends with benefits are okay, as long as you know what you're getting yourself into. And to be honest, going through that phase will better you just because you get to become more selective as you mature and finding the right lady. - Anyway, good luck.

  • 8 years ago

    This is what it is. Your curiosity is making you want to leave but your fears are making you question yourself. There is a fear of hurting her and a fear of leaving and realizing you made a mistake and can't turn back the hands of time. You shouldn't stay in a relationship if your fears are keeping you there.. You'll probably just end up cheating which will hurt her more later down the road. 8 months is not a long time and you're young. Break up.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    You are just wanting to find out what it would be like to have sex with other girls.Better that you do it now than later in life after being married for years.That could upset someone.

    If you want to fool around with other girls you should.Do it while you're young.You'll just need to let go of your girlfriend and let her down gently.Tell her you're not ready to settle down yet.Just dont go all out and tell her exactly what you want to do.She doesnt need the details.If you want out so you can be with other girls you should do it while you're young.Think about it but dont take too long.

  • 8 years ago

    If you're having thoughts about other girls then maybe it's not meant to be with her. If you don't wanna hurt her feelings with break up, get her to break up with you ^_^. if you think you're in love and really wanna stay with her you needa cut that **** out with other girls otherwise gtfo

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    End it. What's the big deal dumbass people **** up everything all the time.

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