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I cant stand my girlfriends Roommate/friend?
basically my girlfriend lives in a hostel and has to share the kitchen and bathroom with a girl and theyve become quite close, i stay at my girlfriends alot so i gues you could say we all started to become quite close go out clubbing together all the time with a few others.. thing is i dont like her and only hack her for the sake of my girlfriend.... she can be extremely rude to my girlfriend sometimes and when people are there she will talk to her like an idiot.. she can also be quite bossy aswel about tidying up ever since she got her apprenticeship in a nursery she hardly makes an effort with my girlfriend and shes suppost to be her best friend.. when im not there my girlfriend will say shes on her own while her mate blanks her and has friends over in her room.. shes also become close to 2 other girls and ever since doesnt seem to bover with her much.. she seems to cook breakfast for them and completely leave us out despite me always offering her food.... she was borrowing money off her and not paying it back, asking my girlfriend to go out and buy her ciggarettes.. she can be quite intimidating aswel she will force us all to go clubbing with her ( i mean emotionally blackmail us ) as shes meeting 2 girls frm her work and then completely ditch us and go off dancing with them as soon as she sees them . ive also caught her giving us dirty looks a few times.. also she keeps bringing some unstable bloke into our home and treating him like crap but then pretendin to be his friend then bitching about how much she cant stand him yet she keeps letting him in, last time he was here he told her he hopes she gets raped and that he thinks his skitzo... yet she brings him into our home to argue with him and make us feel uncomfortable sorry for the long story.. ive told my girlfriend how i feel ... but i just dont no what to do, i honestly cant stand her.. shes embarresing to go out with shes an extremely over weight girl and she wears really tight underwear things wen where going out people will call her fat or pregnant which will cause further arguements.. also when shes drunk she spills drink and ash on the carpet and keeps threatenin to go to her ex boyfriends house to have a go at him... she is hell.. i dont get to spend much time with my girlfriend alone when im there cause of her
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- Mr.Lv 48 years agoFavorite Answer
See if you can have the roommate changed, she probably will never get raped/murdered.. maybe, if she's all mean and forceful, and tries to emotionally blackmail you two, just be mean back and flatly refuse, if she starts quarrelling be the man and take your girlfriend and yourself out off the room go somewhere else, don't make your gf stand up to her, it's your job to do that. if the roommate tries to follow turn and tell her you do not wish to have her company, be assertive. otherwise be civil and tell her your leaving, if you two want a night out, if she grumbles tell her that you two will be back SO, if she tries to blackmail just laugh it off kindly as if she were just joking and that you don't think she's serious and just go out, if you want private time at the apartment (that's hard, I'd suggest you two go to your apartment) if she is mean to your girlfriend in front of people quietly take her aside and tell her you don't appreciate your behaviour, if she tries to blow you off be assertive, don't let her leave until she agrees, grab her arm firmly if you have to; let her know that You ARE there to protect your gf and that you will not let her hurt your most precious thing, if she continues warn her if she explodes, you explode louder, you ARE stronger, you tell her and make sure that she gets it that you WIL NOT BE PUSHED AROUND. be reasonable too, Lowe can't get all we want stuff and places that are public places can't be forced out off people i.e.. you can't ask her to leave, or not bring her boyfriend or fight, but you CAN always with a smile as a friend try to sort out their disputes so that they don't fight that much make them talk to each other. but best of all would be to change the roommate.
