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My girlfriend's been 9000 miles away for 3 weeks?
I miss her to death. How would you feel? I talk to her every day since I've met her 3 years ago. We normally talk for hours and time flies by so quickly without us noticing. She lives in Enland and I live in Ensenada, Mexico. (about 1 hour south of San Diego, California) I watch her sleep on skype every night and I'm just so used to seeing her and spending most of the hours of my day and night with her. I know that she is normally about 5000 miles away, but at least I can talk to her. We plan to meet within a year, aprox but every year she goes to India with her parents for about 3 weeks. It's been 3 weeks and I haven't had a single message from her because she doesn't have internet. I live near the beach and looking in the horizon and thinking of the fact that she is half a planet around me, while picturing it to scale, is one of the worse feelings a man can have. We have been in love since we met and this is just killing me. We are such a close couple, that it would freak most people out. I just want some advice on what I should do to try to keep her off my mind, because every hour, I'm counting down the days till she comes back. And what do you think of my situation? (we met on a online site a bit over 3 years ago and got in a relationship long distance relationship because we knew we were mean't for each other. and no we haven't met yet, but we know everything about each other, given that it's as if we were married.)
@ Mircat, I think we both have a pretty healthy life. We do not text each other at all, and the only reason I can watch her sleep is because in England, it's 8 hours ahead than here, hence when it's around 4 pm for me, It's 12 am for her. We do spend a lot of time on skype every day, but that doesn't interfere with our lives. She goes to school, does voluntary work, goes to the gym and is about to become a Zumba instructor, has friends, does her homework, goes shopping and so on. I am studying a online course, so we both help each other with our work. If you think that you can not love someone just because you haven't seen them in person, I completely disagree. The important thing in being able to love someone is in you knowing who they are. What kind of person they are, and there isn't a better way to find this out through years of communication and evidently sharing a great deal of your life with them, especially being able to watch how they live as if you wer
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- MircatLv 78 years ago
Frankly, that is unhealthy. You may think it's all cutesy and lovey-dovey but the fact that you can't carry on your lives without spending hours texting and watching her sleep on skype only shows how immature you two are. It's not being "close" its being unhealthily dependent and emotionally needy. Two people should have lives away from each other so that when you come together you are well rounded people. Being that wound up in each other doesn't make you well rounded. How the heck will the two of you be able to go to school and study and do hours worth of homework or library work or carry on jobs if you are so dependent upon each other?
As far as a relationship goes, you may think you're boyfriend and girlfriend but in reality all you are to each other is electronic penpals. Dating and a real, healthy, functioning relationship is some one you see in person, go out on dates with in person, share activities with in person, meet each other's families in person, go to movies with, out dancing with, bike riding with, on a picnic with. All you do is electronically communicate and have cut yourselves off from the real world and socializing.
So call it what you want but it's unhealthy. Get out, go places, do things, talk to people while she's gone so that when she comes back you can tell her things not how you were sitting at home like a rock doing nothing and being a bore. You cannot love someone you've never met and you are naive and immature if you think you can. People can lie and say anything online and you have no proof whatsoever that what they say is real.
