PLEASE HELP!!! ex girlfriend...?

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We are both 20 and went to school with each other. last year we ended up dating for 10 months. we split last november because she moved away.

A few problems: she would never reply to my txts (or if she did it was days later). She never answered her phone. (even if it was right next to her she wouldnt answer because she was eg watching a movie, or something else that really didnt matter). And during the whole relationship I needed a supportve girlfriend to talk to after a hard days work or a bad day. and I knew that I couldnt call her because it would only get me more angry (not having anyone to talk to). Also she used to ALWAYS go off and do her own thing without telling me what shes doing. (if I went to toilet at the shopping centre she would wonder off and I would have to look for her.) another problem was she had commitment issues. never wanted to get married or have kids. so there was never going to be any long term security or stability in the relationship.
Anyway even though I know deep down in my heart its not going be a good choice to date her again because things wont change and we have already discussed we arent getting back together. but part of me wants to be with her, part of me still loves her and part of me misses the times we had.

What do I do? Have you ever loved someone that you werent meant to be with? How do you get over someone when your drawn between two different sides?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think almost everyone has felt this way, part of you wants to make it work because you liked being in a relationship, even if it was the wrong one, it's still better than being alone. You can't force what's not meant to be. You both clearly have very different wants and desires, and to pursue her again would only end up in heartbreak. It's better to start looking for someone else, or just enjoy your time single, and when you least expect it, the right one will come along. I know that sounds very cliché, but it's totally true.

? · Answer

That is a tough point... I don't believe that "not meant to be crap"... If she has been ignoring you I guess you have to think twice before doing anything. But I guess you should be sure of that first (or else, it would make a bigger problem!), and only then make your final decision. About getting over with your live.. I guess you have to be patient and not close yourself only on that matter. You may find someone else that might change your mind :) Learning to let go is one of toughest things to do. :(
But I do hope things go along as YOU wish :D
Try to talk to her again.

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