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I feel like a disappointment to my parents?

I've really felt this way for a long time. I'm a good kid, I have good friends, never done drugs, rarely get into trouble (i don't know if it should really be classifyed as trouble since I was just a witness to a fight that had gone on but i was in the principals office), but, I still feel like i'm consitintly disappointing my parents.

My grades in school aren't so good.. in 7th grade, I only got 80-84 averages. They weren't too upset, but they still seemed disappointed.. I found out that I got a 1 on my math state exam (i'm getting a tutor to help me in the 8th grade) and my dad was very upset with me, and my mom just said she wanted me to do better and, being a teacher herself, she understood that the NY state tests were a whole lot harder this year. I'm taking the specialized high school testing this year to try to get into a specalized high school, and that made them happy, but I just feel like i'm constantly putting them down, and i don't want that.

I'm only 13, yeah, I'm young, but this is something that I've been worried about for a while. Do you think I'm a disappointment to my parents, or am I just over thinking??

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  • 8 years ago
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    Everyone will meet with disappointments but the difference is whether you take up the challenge and make yourself better or you get defeated by it. At age 13, you will become more and more aware of yourself and others around you. You are beginning to form an identity and you want the best for yourself and people to respect you. But respect needs to be earned. You need to be more intentional in living your life. Know what you want and work hard to get it. Don't just spend all your energy chasing after fruitless things that don't help you to reach your goals. You need to challenge yourself and benchmark your improvements over yourself, each time, to be better than your past. It's your own race at your own pace.

  • Mocha
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    You should only be disappointed in yourself if you know that you've slacked off and not put in too much effort. If, on the contrary, you did the best you could, then have more pride in the effort you put in.

    A lot of really smart people are bad at math. A lot of people who are really good at math are not that successful in life. So it's not the end of the world that you got poor grades in math... you just have to find things that you are good at!

    Also.. there's a bit to be said about genetics too! When I was in school, I was horrible in foreign languages. I worked 5 times harder than anyone in class, and I barely managed a B+ (if you saw the effort I put in, you might say that I deserve an A+). However, I took physics (a class typically most students struggle in) and all I had to was to read a passage or two describing some concept, and I got it right away. My parents are scientists, by the way, and get "things" that many people fail to understand. They too struggled with languages.

    So really.. put in your best effort into everything because it's good to show that you are diligent and not easily discouraged by topics that seem tough to you. But really, try to look for things that you excel at naturally and use that to define your future career path. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You are not a disappointment, otherwise they wouldn't be trying to help you to succeed. They push you because they see good in you, they see your potential. In a way, they feel responsible if you don't succeed.

    Keep your chin up, keep trying hard. It's normal to want to please your parents, but you should figure out why it is important to YOU to have good grades.

    If you feel like a disappointment, sit down with your parents and tell them that. Things will get better, it just takes time.

    Source(s): I'm a parent.
  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Ofcourse you are, you were just an accident

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