Was this rude, or am I just overreacting?

Both of these things (bringing uninvited guests to a party and going through someone's home) are extremely rude.

Honestly, if so many of these people were doing this, then I think you need to evaluate your friends. You may have been raised by a mother with high etiquette standards, but it doesn't take high standards to know that it is not OK to show up uninvited or pry through someone's house.

One of the previous commenters remarked that you should have started refusing people entry after extras started showing up and I agree. This kind of situation can quickly get out of hand. Strangers can steal things. An overcrowded house can lead to damage and complaints from the neighbors. You need to learn to be more assertive.

Of course you are not overreacting, I cannot believe people went trough your house as they did.

Next time you throw a party be sure to add a side note stating that only people on the list will be accepted at your party. When everyone on the list is in, Close your doors and refuse anyone uninvited.

no that was very rude..in fact today's society is rude people today feel the need to be entitled to everything as if it was their birth right to do what they want when they want. The people who went to your party seems very socially inept so to some it up yes they were rude af and next time when you throw a party and you invite specific individuals you tell them over text , email, skype etc that no one else is to bring Friends or whatever like last time because they took advantage of your sanctity home...cheers

These people were not just party crashers, their behavior suggest that they were looking for something.........perhaps to steal, maybe. Why else would people be looking through your stuff?

I think you really should have told those who were not invited to leave the premises. I had to do that once, but, it was too late, they ripped off things from my parent's bedroom.

Next time you decide to have a party, I suggest you invite people and tell them they are not permitted to bring a guest.

Honestly I think you are not over reacting! It's your house and they are your rules. Honestly i had planned a party in my house and the guests start making those things I would be clearly pissed and annoyed! So no, you are not overreacting, these people are rude. And I think next time you d a party, better lock the doors.

Thankyou xx

First, it was RUDE!! However, having written that, why in the world, after the first 20 or so extra, uninvited people showed up, didn't you greet them at the door with something like,

Oh, my, it's really good to see you; however, can you come back another time when it is more convenient? And, then, politely shut the door.

I think they would have gotten the message.

I am sorry to say but those people had no business looking through your home or items. When you are a guest at someone's house you just don't do that not even if it was close family.

That is rude, but it's pointless worrying because if they went and did it in the first place, then they won't apologise. Just try to keep the party private next time and tell your friends not to bring other people

How old were these people?

They sound like teenagers or very young adults. If they were then it would be rude, but more understandable.

If they were mature people then yes it was rude, and strange. Were some of them criminals, looking to steal something from you?

"I'm going to be a little more careful about the invitations"

LOL you're getting the lesson early in life that few (if any) people have the same "standards" as ourselves. My advice to you is to be a LOT more careful about EVERYTHING in life - people willing (and in fact very eager) to overstep "boundaries" abound; and that includes aspects that are legislated for (eg. theft, assault).

Take care.