Why do other people nearly always assume my parents must be divorced , when I say I have a stepfather?

That is between you and your Stepfather and your Mother.

I agree with you and in the same situation as a man I would prefer to be called by my first name.

Unless this Step father is the only dad that you have ever known then calling him dad would be OK

Also I must say sorry for you and your Mothers loss.

Hi Carnation.

It's because that's the first impression the word stepfather gives. And most people is afraid of asking about the details so the assume to let you give the explanations, it happens to be also a comfort issue, to not waste so much words into a thing they believe it bothers you more than them. With regard to that, you have to accept that.

If don't want to live giving explanations just say my father died, cut sharply changing the topic of conversation and they'll understand in a minutes.

A good reason for them to label a stepfather on such a demeaning way is because most people think marriage is sacred and concubinage or remarriage is the worst thing along with killing.

The case of your stepfather is not a sin, is perfectly blameless as Lord Jesus stated that.

Of course many women widowed prefer to keep with the remembrances of their beloved husbands and never think on marrying again, other times are their children who ask them expressly not to do it, but this is only decision of the widow and by "the request of their children" but it's not bad to marry again after having a deceased spouse.

Thinking on this last thing, If you are so annoyed to explain this all the time after you say: I have a stepfather and they reply that he doesn't even deserves the word father behind step, you should tell them sharply that it's not a sin that a widow remarriages.

Having a step-parent is not the same for everyone. Do what feels natural and right for you; calling him by his first name is not disrespectful.

Ok. Then carry on with what you do. When you feel like calling him dad one day then do it. I know of people like that because their step dads really loved them like a parent

First stop advertising urself and ur bizness should be kept within yourself. Your step dad is now your dad. To call him by his name, he sure will feel odd and rejected. How are you connected with him?is there mistrust, anger, resentments, or something that makes you to act otherwise. My advice to you is that dont discriminate him from family

If you feel like your step-father is fatherly but feel like you are wrong in calling him dad,why not call him"Pop" or something else like that.That way there is no explaining and you can also show him how much you care for him.

It's not disrespectful at all if you don't feel comfortable calling him dad you don't have to and don't let anyone make you feel obligated to do so

It's a lot more common is all and people like to do first and think later.

Your dead dad isn't going to care.