My husband wants a baby and I don't?

Well, between the two of you, you have 8 children. That's a lot of kids. I can see why you wouldn't want to start over. I also don't believe that people should have kids they don't want. As I'm sure you know, parenting is hard enough when you are excited about it. It maybe that he's trying to recreate the fantasy of perfect marriage, perfect family, but it just isn't necessary to have another child for that reason. Your marriage and relationships with the children you already have can be enough. I'd keep talking to him about it and find out why he wants a 9th child.

You ASSUMED you were done or did you two talk about this before marriage

I don't see why one more would be so bad. But, that's me.

What about practical life? Will he stay home with baby or expect you to? How will buget and other life goals be affected?

We can't tell you anything but to talk the truth and do it in a constructive way that includes needs for your marriage.

Ask yourself why he may want another child. Is it his way of cementing your relationship in his eyes and in the publics eye?

If so I would suggest you and your husband speak to someone professional like relate as to why he feels the need to prove your love.

Talk to him to make sure he understands its not just the pressure and commitment to raising a child but also you personally have to put your life on hold as your body carried the child and the risks you face.

Or maybe your husband has a lot of love to give and wants to give this love to a baby with his lovely wife :)

You have (let me count again) 8 kids between you and he wants another??? Can you feed/educate them all?

There are people in China who are only allowed one child per family, because their Government realised the impact on the world of unrestricted breeding. It was a horrible solution - but it has worked, up to a point.

Most educated people accept that population growth will result in starvation in many countries within the next 20 years, simply because too many people have more children than they can support.

It's YOUR body, if you don't want any more children, you don't have to.

Explain to him WHY you don't want to have another baby and try and get him to see it through your perspective.

You have 8 children between you so it's not like you're robbing him of children, so don't feel pressured into making a decision you don't want.

He is your husband, you haven't explained why you don't want a baby. Maybe you're opening a door for your ex to enter.

You do whatever YOU want. 4 kids each is quite enough, and if He thinks You need a kid together to prove some sort of bond, then He's a twatt.

You agreed and now you're holding out. This is going to cause some major resentment.

That's a shame, you changed your mind and your husband has to be happy with that ? I don't know what you can do but I know I would want to please him and keep my word if I had given it.

sigh........and you never talked about this BEFORE you got married?????? Jeez.