Why does my friend treat me differently?

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My friend I've known for 9 years has been acting strange around me lately, when we were younger we could talk every time I saw him but now we hardly talk at all. He's always been the kind of person who jokes around a lot but lately most of his jokes are directed at me. I've asked him why he picks on me so much and he says it's only because I react more than anyone else so it's more fun. At times he will be nice to me and actually talk to me like we're friends but that changes when another guy comes over. I've also discovered that he really doesn't like to text anyone, especially me, first. But he will text this girl Chloe first and will continue to text her late, he won't even do this with most of the guys in our youth group. It just really bothers me that I feel like he hates me, I want him to be able to trust me and talk to me when he needs to. He can't even talk to me about his parents divorce when mine got divorced literally the same time his did and I know how he feels. Yet he opens up to others about it. Why does he always have to act so brave and rather sassy around me? I absolutely don't get it!

Lupe4812 · Accepted Answer

I don't know my friend used to talk jokes about me and I thought he hated me but I inferred that him picking on me was his way of getting my attention on him. Maybe that's his way of still trying to keep you as a friend like still keep you in the circle of his friends since you guys don't talk much. And my friend the same one from above talked to everyone about breaking up with his gf except me and be sad with everyone except me I think he just wants to appear strong in front of you guys have the tendency to do that for some reason even if you've known him for 9 years. I've known one other friend for 15 years almost my whole life but he never will ever let me see him cry or tell me when somethings wrong I think it's a pride thing. He also probably doesn't want to make you sad cuz your parents got divorced too.

Anonymous · Answer

Omg. I feel you. This is EXACTLY what's happening to me at the moment. Its like I'm invisible half the time. Im a girl and so is my friend and she never texts me just guys she fancies.
Anyway, try confronting him. Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't listen, tell him off. Like seriously if he's gonna act this way, don't have anything to do with him. I know its hard unfriending someone you've known for ages, but don't get upset to make someone else happy.

Good Luck!

? · Answer

Well first of all it could mean 2 things. One he is in a bad state of mind because of his parents divorce and he cant or wont see clearly, hes taking his anger and sadness out on you. It might not be personal of anything. It could also mean he doesn't want to be friends anymore and I personally think that if you already tried to talk to him bout it adn he still treated you badly. I think you shouldn't be friends with him anymore, you don't deserve to be picked on or laughed at trust me Ive been there. The best thing to (I think) is to move on. You deserve better.

? · Answer

It sounds like he's leaving you behind. Sometimes friends just grow apart. You need to pull him aside and ask him about this because you're not over reacting about this is a problem when you want to have a strong relationship.

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Why does my friend treat me differently?

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