How can my Mom and I get along?

I am SO glad to hear that you WANT to have a good relationship with your mom, and that you REALIZE that you argue over "silly" things. I'm also happy you want your daughter to have a relationship with her Grandma. I assume your mother loves and want a relationship with her granddaughter as well.

Sometimes personalities just clash. Sometimes, it's weird, but if you are a lot like them, you "butt heads" because you both have to be right. It's like you are strong arming one another. A power kick. Then there also may be unresolved issues from childhood.

I will throw this in. I do believe the best way to solve this is to resolve things with your mother. Your daughter needs to see a healthy relationship between the two of you, or she will be confused. I know this from personal experience. My relationship with my mother has always been strained. My son never said anything, but silently watched as my mother and I would have one tiff after another. He's in college now, and sometimes my mother would call him and cry. One day he called me and said that I need to start treating her better. He said that I was treating her like he used to treat me. That hit me hard. Was I being like a spoiled teenager while in my forties? He told me that she would call him crying.

Now the question is, does your mother want to have a better relationship with you. Well, whether she admits it or not, I'm sure she does. It's got to start with you, either way. Start with praying. Praying for forgiveness. Praying for her.

Now, to get to your question about how to get your daughter to spend time with your mother when it ends up being a fight every time. That's something to pray about too. Is there a third party? A friend of yours that could take her over while the two of you work on your relationship? That is not the best way, because it enables the two of you to hold a grudge. Eventually your daughter will wonder why someone else is taking her to Grandmas. So you can see that you just need to get to the root of why you and your mama bicker so much. Pray for wisdom. Find a Christian counselor. Find a Psychologist if possible.

Every child needs their grandma. And they don't need to see fighting. There's enough violence and hatred in this world.