My wife will not help with household bills?

Don't pay any credit cards that are in her name only. Only buy food for yourself that you like and she hates. Let her buy her own food. Open up a bank account under your name only. Deposit your paycheck in a separate account. Don't pay for cars under her name only or anything that is under her name and not yours. Yes, you'll have to pay rent/mortgage, etc. Stop paying the utilities bills. Buy candles and shut off the electric. If you can live with less, let her squirm. Tell her you'll turn things back on when she puts in her fair share. If you make more than her, then figure out what percentage she has to pay in. It can't always be 50/50 if one spouse make more, but it has to be her fair share. Teach her a lesson. If you can live with no cable TV, no electric, etc for a month or two, she may straighten out. Tell her... "Well, I'm paying for my fair share and can't afford to pay for yours". Of course she may dump you, but you don't seem adverse to that. She sounds spoiled and needs a good spanking. Just kidding. Not really, but it could get you arrested! She needs a lesson in what your share pays for, so pay your fair share and live without much. I bet she won't be able to!

Where a couple can't/won't discuss financial matters it already has relationship problems.

The fact that your wife has her "own money' but will not contribute to the household bills is a problem.

The fact your wife keeps her spending secret is a problem.

The fact she gets "upset" and you can't talk to her about it is a problem.

There may be something going on - cheating, gambling, addiction, secret savings/get away account - or she might just feel entitled to indulge herself with "her" money while expecting that you have to support her. Either way that's still a problem.

Have a serious talk about what each of you is going to contribute to the marriage. You are supposed to be a team and it doesn't sound like she is playing on the same side as you. By contributions, I mean: money, housework, cooking, shopping, yard work, ?childcare? You deserve to know where her money is going.

That's really sad. I've heard ur version, but to properly answer u fairly I need to hear her version. Then I can figure out the truth. Fist, bottom line is that its the husbands responsibility to provide for the family period. She is the helpmate. But, it seems to me that she should be willing to help, I'm mean u are her husband. U guys need to be united. And there is no mine and yours its ours in marriage.

LEAVE. LEAVE LEAVE. !