Do you have any advice on getting over a very bad phobia of snakes?

While I define "commitment phobia" as "an unrealistic fear of making a promise, a pledge or a vow to be a faithful and loyal partner to another person," many singles may also fear that becoming a committed couple means giving up, or losing, their independence.

It's not uncommon for singles to fear that committing to be a life-long relationship challenges the safety and comfort they perceive as benefits of being single. Remaining single does have its advantages. You can come and go as you please, leave your dirty clothes or dirty dishes alone for as long as you want, and spend your time and money independently. And, you can choose to reveal to the world whatever parts of yourself you want to reveal, and keep your weaknesses and vulnerabilities hidden.

In most contexts, our fears are designed to keep us away from dangerous situations. It's healthy and normal to fear snakes, loud noises and bad smells, and we protect ourselves by running away from them. But in order to create a trusting and intimate relationship with a partner, one has to confront fears and take emotional risks.

Accomplishing this goal requires confronting the fears of what you're "losing," and focusing instead on what you're gaining -- trust, intimacy, closeness -- the rewards of a loyal and loving partnership. So, how might this be accomplished?

The first step is to acknowledge that you actually do want to share your life with someone. I've worked with many singles who don't succeed in finding a relationship because they are ambivalent about really wanting one. Getting clarity on your life goals is part of the first step to

Firstly, try talking to ur parents about it. They wont think its stupid

To get over it... Maybe go to the zoo, in the reptile section were there are snakes. And go to those free exhibits were u can hold one! They wont bite!!! Unless u attack. Try and get over it by thinking.. Y is this bothering me? U live nowhere near snakes. Theres nothing to fearr :))