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Post pregnancy scare anxiety?
Okay so me and my girlfriend had a big pregnancy scare last month and we were freaking out. We definitely cant afford that and it would've been a huge mistake. But her period came and it was all good. We decided to wait a little while before we did again just because we were both still freaked out(mostly me). Today we did it for the first time in two months and I am still freaked out about. We were safe and used a condom, but for some reason I still feel like I made a mistake and like have to worry or something. My girlfriend says she understands and is helpful about it. But I feel bad because she wants it and I cant really provide it for her without getting sad about it or getting scared. Is there something wrong with me? Is this normal? I'm obviously glad because we learned a lesson and now we will always be safe about it but i feel like i should be over it by now or something. I shouldn't still be living in this fear but i am. I'm just confused about the whole thing and I want it to be out of my mind. Any advice would be appreciated
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- Anonymous8 years agoFavorite Answer
Yes, it is normal feelings. Teens and others need to realize that much about anxiety is normal, and that somethings if you feel fear about the fear will actually help you be more diligent and careful about these things in the future.
It is another way we learn.
I don't think that feeling fear is necessarily something we need once \we learn how to live and deal with fearful things, but it is a basic , hind brain, primitive brain thing to feel and get triggered in certain situations. Getting pregnant, flight or fight situations,etc, often bring out these feelings.
Survival. vs thriving.
So, if you learn to thrive, it would include the cautions these fears have imprinted on your minds and then you can wait, to become responsible adults, have enough money to have children, the right mates etc.
It's all good... Create your best life.
- Simpson G.Lv 78 years ago
My girlfriend and I.
You had this scare and you can't control yourselves enough to stop having sex so that she doesn't get pregnant for real? Yes, condoms, when used effectively have nearly a 100% success rate. However, your past history shows that you can't be trusted to use them properly nor to use them every time.
If you guys can't keep your pants on, then she needs to get on a reliable birth control method immediately. New IUDs and birth control implants can be great options for forgetful people.
You should be VERY afraid. Sex is how babies are made. You are old enough to know this, you have made the adult decision to have sex, so now it's time to be be responsible about it. If your gf isn't willing to get on a reliable birth control AND use condoms each and every time, then no more sex.
- SOME1Lv 48 years ago
Kids raising kids. *sigh* Things like this is how people get pregnant. Don't do it because you seem still freaked out and it will only lead to mistakes and then boom your pregnant.
- 8 years ago
try speaking to some professionally. I used a website called Your Friendship Circle. They give you a professional response and quite quickly too.
They will have the answers you need. I used it recently for help with loss of a loved one.
www.yourfriendshipcircle.com
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