What's happened to my bff?

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weve been best friends since we were 1, and have been through primary school, high school and college together, we use to be like sisters. we were pretty average girls, not particularly girly, not particularly popular or cool, we had good grades but we werent nerdy. 

 Last year she went to america for a holiday, which soon turned into a gap year. She got a boob job and a nose job (which is really unlike her) and started dressing really, well... slutty (low cut tops, denim shorts, high heels), she dyed her hair blonde (she had always been a redhead) and got a tan. She started wearing loads of makeup (before we both used to just stick to mascara, now she had foundation, lip gloss, blusher, eyeliner, everything!!). 

 she came back over christmas to stay, she was wearing short shorts in december!!! she's started saying things like "totally" and "oh my gawd" in an slight american accent, and sticks out amongst us pasty skinned normal speaking people. 

 before if anything i was the dominant one (but only slightly), i was the one who got a boyfriend first, i was the one who invited her to her first proper party, i was the one who was a little rebellious at times. Now she has become, well, awful. 

 i know she hasnt become a hooker or anything like that, she got a boyfriend whilst she was over there and he is a pretty average guy, not the type to make his gf dress like that, or get a boob job (were talking triple D's here). Were both 20, weve known each other for 19 years, how has she changed so much? why? what can i do to try to relate to her?

 dont tell me to break off any friendship with her, i cant do that.

Anonymous · Answer

I;m not sure how old you are but I'm going to guess around 16 - 21?
There was this girl I was BFF's with since we were 2, the friendship lasted almost 11 years but I messed everything up.

I've been upset about it for a couple years, but I've learnt that over the time, people change sometimes alot,.
 It can sometimes be the people around them that cause them to act differently..
People change over time, and sometimes it's peer pressure, people go through things that change them, and maybe she wants to be like that..

Yas · Answer

Well, it seems the girls she is in contact with are very focused in how they look. Your friend did adapt to this. So her style did change, I dont think she changed deep inside. When she is back home this will come to a more normal level again. 
Accept it, don't be bothered yu aren't the dominant part of the friendship anymore.

Blue Sky · Answer

Sounds to me like she is very easily influenced or she always wanted to dress and act the way she is but it took coming to America to bring that out in her. All you can is be honest with her and tell her how feel, just don't come across as being too judgmental. Lovey picture by the way!

Lisa · Answer

people change, it's a part of life, some of it she probably changed for guys and people who look at her but yeah people change all the time

FamilyMail · Answer

you cant relate . she's a whole different person . you will never find her again .
thats the affect of america on innocent people.

freshwind · Answer

Just accept her as she is, maybe she will calm down in the future  people do.

? · Answer

She's jealous.

Those look real btw.

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