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Daughter has a strange relationship with her boyfriend, I don't know what to think?
I am confused at the relationship my 16 year old daughter has with her 17 year old boyfriend. She has been dating him for 6 months, see each other every single day, she wears his clothes, tells him she loves him all the time. She broke up with him about a month ago and was devastated but, they got back together the next day. Told me she doesn't love him enough to have sex with him but, they do ( I buy the condoms, just to be safe and getting her birth control). When she is at home she says she doesn't want to be with him, she doesn't love him and that he aggravates her. She is like a walking contradiction and I am wondering what is going on with her. I see them together and they seem like they are totally in love so I don't understand why she says these things. She was in love once before, and she was devastated at the break up, took her months to get over it and she really still isn't over it and I am wondering if she is just putting up a wall so she don't get hurt or if she is really confused? Please help me to try to figure this out. What is going on?
Cohocolate cheesecake-I didn't let my daughter sleep with her boyfriend, she is a teenager they do those things. I gave her "the talk" years ago and told her that if she ever comes to a point in her life where she was going to have sex then she needs to talk to me and she did, she had already did it at this point so all I can do is make sure she is protected and that she can talk to me about anything and I wouldn't call that a parenting fail at all. Many kids cant talk to their parents about these issues and end up pregnant or even worse with a disease. I just want to make sure she is ok and make sure she is mature enough to handle the consequences of having sex. If you are not open with your kids and they have no one to talk to bad things can happen.
She does pay attention elsewhere, she is an honor student with her head on straight, doesn't drink, do drugs and has never even been in trouble. This is only the 2nd boyfriend she has ever had because she is so picky and she believes in total monogamy.
7 Answers
- Steven EwingLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
I think you're a great mom, and I think your daughter is typical 16, so she has some drama in her persona, which is that confusion she reflects. Anyway, with your open relationship, able to keep things out front and observable, she seems pretty grounded. As long as she continues sharing her everyday life events with you, she can handle her boyfriend. He should appreciate your respect for their maturity in handling sexual compatibility, and the fact you support it with condoms and birth control for safe sex
practices. You are in tune to 2013, and maintaining a smart perspective means you won't have surprises when it comes to unplanned consequences of young couple love.
- 8 years ago
Have you asked her straight out why she acts that way... maybe she has her reasons.... how does she act around her friends... does she act like she loves her boyfriend or hates him.
Very surprised that at the age of 16 she has already had a relationship and had a dramatic breakup and as you say this may have hurt her... maybe she is in her relationship now for the physical benefits (i don't know but it is possible).
I know a couple from school who always break up and get back together again.. they always talk about how much they hate each other ... and then when I see them they act like they love each other to bits and are very physical.... the guy developed anxiety.
I think its best to confront this problem with your daughter but be careful she may get angry at you for worrying about her
- Anonymous8 years ago
Mom, you really don't have to get involved. Let her know you're there to talk but then just take a step back. If she's mature enough to have a boyfriend, she's mature enough to know her feelings and know how to handle certain situations. It's good of you to be worried but this is something she'll have to figure out on her own.
- 8 years ago
Its just teenage puppy love. Every female no matter how old are guilty of complaining more about what men do wrong to their friends and family than talking about what they do right. Your teen is just a moody hormonal female and I'm sure its just a phase. Just tell her to either stop complaining or break up with him for good.
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- Anonymous8 years ago
With all due respect, ma'am, you'd do yourself a favor to stay out of your daughter's dramatic love life. I know you do it because you love her, but a part of growing up is being able to handle the stress and responsibility on your own. Regardless, I wish you the best with your situation!
- TexasHoldEmJonesLv 68 years ago
Seems kind of young to be doing all these adult things. She probably doesn't understand herself, so how can you understand her? I'd suggest she break up and try going without a boyfriend for a while and find herself, since she really isn't into this guy that much.
- chococheesecakeLv 58 years ago
You let your daughter sleep with her boyfriend? Uh wow...I'd like to tell you that is a BIG parenting fail. So imagine she breaks up after very few months and is with a new guy, each time you will let her sleep with a new guy? Honestly your daughter is not an object. Please don't promote promiscuity. Please please get her to pay attention at school or elsewhere... Man this is shamelessness
Oops my bad, pre marital sex is part of western culture.
