Why those persons heart me always whom i love so much..please say me how can i become a strong hearted girl?

Heyy.

I can understand your situation and I am sure you are gonna be alright soon :)

By the way you are not sounding practical here.

Yes you are extremely emotional, possessive and soft and kind hearted person fro sure and I admire you for being like that. Take it as a compliment.

I'll explain why you are not sounding practical.

Before that, let's understand why people don't treat you well.

The only reason I find is that people around you (your mom and your guy) don't think as sensitively and deeply as you do.

Most people in this world think and live on the surface only and are happy living that way. They really don't care about other's sentiments as they dont understand them in the first place.

You have a tendency of thinking beyond. You go deep into the matters. You might feel bad on small things of life and won't get hurt with bigger losses.

Coz life's priorities for you are entirely different than others.

So here you are impractical and you can try to change yourself now.

First of all, STOP crying for anything.

You are a big girl now and should know that crying is meant for the weak but you r not a weak person. Also this is one reason you are loosing confidence day on day.

I can understand a particular behaviour from your mom's side as she must be having so many compulsions in her life and may not sense what you would be feeling deep inside. But I fail to understand why your guy is insesitve towards you.

Why he can't keep you happy and fulfill your simple small desires of life.

Why he doesnt walk an extra mile only to see you happy and ensure you never cry.

It seems he's also cold towards you in the sense that you will cry and get normal after sometime.

Well! Time to wake up.

As I said, you don't have to cry or feel sad even if someone (close) hurts you.

From now, stop expecting anything from people around you.

Start paying attention to other things in life...you hobbies/work/studies etc.

You expectations from other are making you weak. The moment you'll stop expecting you will be stronger. Start walking down the lane alonw, I am sure you will enjoy it too.

Start helping others. People who are needy, who are sick or who are blind. Kids who might need your affection. The moment you start sharing with them you will find their eyes blessing you. This would bring positive vibes to you and your confidence will automatically reinforce.

You can also goto a Temple/Church or offer some services to the community.

A time will come, you will start wiping off others' tear instead of your own and there you are :)

You don't require any support from anyone now.

With self-reliazation you can support yourself. And if you still feel lonely, seek blessing from the Almighty!

Get some company of some elderly people whose life's experience could inspire you. Listen to some spiritual talks if possible.

Find ways to stay happy in the world of your own thoughts and do things that make you happier.

Why seek happynes from the people around you. Rathar be strong enough to spread happyness all around yourself.

Hope this helps.

Stay blessed!

The persons who love you can never hurt you and if they really hurt they won't love you, rather enjoy your innocence. You are emotional, agreed but you don't know that emotional persons are too strong. this is my own experience as I am also sentimental person. I too cry but not for me that some one had hurt me, I cry if some one has hurt some othere innocent person I know you also do the same but you won't understand the reason of your crying. Look we are emtional and we live for others, we are not selfish, we always help others and humanity. Our tears are for others and for God. How others behave don't bother for this, you behave well with all. I know we people who are emotional many times feel sad so tears roll down our cheeks.Not because others hurt us . we are so strong that no one can hurt us. We daon't care such people.No no no you are not alone in this word. God is with you and we all are with you. Our wishes are with you. You talk to you guy and tell him why he hurt you. why he wanted you to cry, ask the same things to mother also.Its not good be a brave and don't cry please. And daily, bad no way you should not. Why you get depressed, don't think too much. Don,t be ashamed to sghare your feelings and problems with your close friends. If you need mail to me and share your grief with me. I am a guy. married having children, I don't know why but I realy am worried for you. Don't loose heart the good days will do come soon, try to be happy.No doubt you are really a doll and you have to remain happy. Build confindence in you, increase your will power. Do meditation daily 15 minutes minimum, Try to be brave, like queen of Jhansi, don't think to end the life. Who says you are looser. Always think positive. You being soft hearted is carrying a big quality in you. What you should do, you have asked, Live for others and self. Be happy always. Be positive, And never cry. enhance your friend circle and talk to them always. Don't give free moments to you. Don't feel you are alone. Believe in God and He is with you always.

Thanks

I have lots of the same kind of people that you are dealing with. I decided that that there are the givers and others are takers. I have know lots of the takers and so I leave the takers alone. I am way too soft hearted and don't like being taken advantage of. I am much happier now since I learned to do that. I hope things get better for you.

You require motivation from chatting. Motivation to move ahead like a leader. Move ahead like a queen. Look eye to eye and talk. why not discuss the issue in detail with les dot smale at yahoo dot com and get suggestions.

Love and hate are usual in relationship ,nobody is mr,perfect and you can't find that anywhere you go ,so realize that ,have cordial relationship with everyone and dont create unnecessary expectations and desires towards others .just be as who you are . . . be like a sun , which doesn't get affected by anything ...

Be without tears.Wrap your heart with steel sheet barring a few exception.

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@ GOOD BOY: you have analysed the situation well and your advice is inspiring. Hope she will get it. Well done dude.

Be strong. Stand up for yourself, you don't need anyone. Be independent.

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