Daughter bullied by a former friend?

I don't think so. Forgiving is not the same as forgetting. Tell your daughter that you forgive her friend but your head is saying you must not forget lessons learned. Having been a girl who was bullied and learned lessons from it--I believe the girl is upset that your daughter has moved on and is only reaching out to infiltrate her present friends and start all over again. Young girls are not into asking for forgiveness it is all still a game.

Hope you can stand your ground and not lose the faith of your daughter. Bullies are psychologists, and she may not be fitting in where she is now and needs more conquests. Your daughter is lucky that the

other girl didn't finally drive her to suicide as many other bullies have. God has given your daughter a door to a new life and she shouldn't close it on herself.

See how many other mothers are agreeing with you at the end of this and know that we all know that a former bully does not repent in a couple of months. No one MAKES another, kind person, bully someone else.

Hi

I am about the same age as your daughter and the EXACT same thing happened to me. I came home in tears most days because I didnt understand why my best friend started acting like this. In the end, it was me who tried to sort things out. My mum told me to not get involved with her, but I didnt listen. I was so convinced that she was a better person and that she had changed. I invited her to my party. My mum said I could have an extra big party that year because I hadn't really had a party in five years. I was so excited and planned everything so that it would be perfect. Turns out that, that one girl, ruined my party. I was devestated and couldnt believe that I had trusted her again. The point that I am trying to make is that your daughter is probably hopeful, just as I was. I really wish that I could have taken. my mums advice. Forgiveness is a great quality, but please, don't let your daughter be too naive. That girl may have changed, like your daughter is saying, but if the bullying was really that severe, I wouldn't really want to ever see that girl again.

Hope this helped :)

Flick x

Your daughter should be commended for her ability to forgive, although she is misguided to want to remain friends with this bully "friend" of hers.

Your daughter is too trusting and there must be some kind of social gain for her to want to be friends with the bully again. I cannot think of any other reason why your daughter would want to subject herself and her life to a person who is untrustworthy. Why this bully suddenly apologized and wants to be friends now is very suspicious. I think your daughter is opening herself up to be hurt again.

Okay, so the bully apologized, which is good. However, that does not mean your daughter should be her friend. I am guessing your daughter is 15 or 16 and does not yet possess a high level of maturity. Because anyone with the slightest amount of wisdom would not befriend a bully.

I am with you. I would not let that bully into my house, ever. She is not to be trusted, no way. You know, it is so hard to see our children suffer from bullying and to see them make bad choices. But, that is part of learning and growing. Perhaps your daughter needs to learn a lesson here. It could go one of two ways. She could find that the bully is truly sorry and turns out to be a good friend or she may very well set herself up to be hurt again. I suppose she needs to learn by experience. As parents, that is hard to watch.

I would sit down with your daughter and try to at least reason with her about certain things. For one, remind her of the bullying and how she felt and let her know you are proud that she has learned to forgive but not to be foolish and get too close to this girl again until trust has been earned. Because what she went through was a horrible time and you would hate to see her set up to be hurt again. Also, let her know that if it was so easy for that bully to bully, then maybe she is still doing it to other students and does your daughter really want her reputation to be tarnished by being associated with a known bully.

Stick to your guns about not allowing that bully into your home.