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What should I do about her?
So this is relating to my relationship. I met this girl a year ago, and have been in a relationship for a year come January 1st. I love her with all my heart, and it took me a few months, or even the better part of the year to realize this. We rarely fight, and shes my best friend I can tell her anything and ALWAYS rely on her. There is just something about her whenever I see her. No, shes not the best looking but I realized that doesnt matter cause when I look at her and what she does, I love every part of her, there is just something about her I cant explain. Now comes the question. Come End of May I am traveling abroad to Europe and backpacking across multiple countries. Something I cant wait to do. I have plenty of friends across Europe all of which I plan of visiting, even past friends I have been involved with romantically. I told my GF that I plan on going for 2 months across Europe to travel, and she said exactly "I know you are going to break up" and like I said we love each other and know each other so well, so yes I want to. But aside from sparking old flames, traveling single is a different experience, idk how to explain it. But its more freedom you know, allows for more spontaniality. I dont want to have to check back with her ever day or week cause who knows if i wil even be by a phone. And I dont want her to worry if i miss a planned phone call even for a few weeks. Plus I dont want her waiting for me all summer, cause who knows she may meet someone else. Lastly, shes my first legit gf, im 20 years old so i know I wont marry her at least not now, but that doesnt mean I cant say I love her. I figure since it worked out so well now, than why couldnt it again in 3 months, a year or even 10 years. I am the type of person that wants and loves experience. The thing is this. How do i REALLY know I lovve her if I dont have anyone else to compare the feeling too? thats how I view this, if i really do love her and want to marry her than I have to make sure first. So that means experimenting with other girls, let it be a few weeks, months or years. YEs I know i could loose her, but it wouldn't be fair having her wait for me and me knowing I wont marry her. I have to much curiosity about others, now that im in the dating game. But everyday since I have made the decision to go to Europe I think about leaving her. Is it right to break up with her? Or say I wana take a break and see what happens when im back? is it right to do it when I leave next year in MAy and "drag" her on until than? or should I do it now before she gets more attached? I love her so much, thats what makes this so hard. I just dont know what to do. But how do I know that I REALLY do love her, cause I have nothing else to compare the feeling too...thanks for any advice guys. This is probably more of a airing my thoughts
3 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
That is a pretty hard thing to deal with. But that would be pretty fcked up if you just break up with her because you wanna compare her to other girls. If I were you, I would stay with her. If you love her that much than why not stay with her and see what the future has for you. Even though you are going away she has to understand that you wanted to do this. The only thing to have to worry about is if she will be faithful or not while you are gone. But if you guys love each other that much you should be fine. But just don't break up with her because you want to see if you really do love her. That is pretty messed up if you do.. Anyway good luck man! Wish you the best between you and her!
- Anonymous8 years ago
If you did you wouldn't part from her
For anyone
Or anything
Many claim they can
But few live up to it
Your the exception
Cheers
- 8 years ago
Well you clearly don't love her if you want to be with other women. That's not love. Let her go