Suffering from inferiority complex?

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I use to have a really hard crush on this dude for over a year, but decided to let go four months ago (of personal reasons, this wasn't going to work out). I really can't get over him and I just don't understand. I've erased anything that I reminded me of him (pictures, music, etc) and I really try to distract my mind and tell myself that there is a life other than being with him. I try my best to avoid him, but even then... whenever I hear he has a girlfriend or is seeing someone my heart just sink. I really tried seeing other guys, but nothing helps. 

What's even worse is we don't live far from each other so it's inevitable to meet him (although I try my best ignoring him). The thing is, he's really popular among the girls and he seem to have a lot of guy friends too. He is also the "perfect" boy i.e good grades, barely gets into trouble, respected and so on. I don't know why, but I just feel so inferior to him. Whenever he pass me and just look at me for 000.1 seconds, I just feel like going underground. Maybe because I know I'll do anything embarrassing. I just feel like everything I do is embarrasing and it makes me really sad about myself. I always feel a shame about everything about me. I grew up people pointing out everything wrong with me, thus I feel a shamed whenever someone just look at me. I don't really like when people feel my presence. It really has ruined me to the point where I don't feel like going out of the door anymore and just staying at home. It angers and sadness me so much. I really don't know what to do anymore

Iulia · Accepted Answer

What you need to do is watch yourself in the mirror and think carefully about what it is that makes you feel inferior. Physically. Develop a plan for changing the bad stuff. If you think nothing's wrong with your body, go out and buy some sexy clothes. Yes, it will be a change and everyone around will be surprised for about 48 hours, yet nothing bad is going to happen. You look good, you feel good. It's a rule. Dress good and wander around so that everybody can feel bad about themselves when seeing you. Even though you're not confident at all, you can trick people into thinkig you are. Just relax. Keep your head up, your back straight, watch people in their eyes and control your face so that it doesn't look too serious. Try to smile as much as you can. Try not to be mediocre in matters of clothes. You need to get observed. You need to be appreciated. This is how you start. Just don't get kitschy. Start randomly talking to people: about things you like, about the new teacher, about your homework, about a movie you've seen, god knows. Just talk. It will get natural soon. Do these and you've already got a good start.

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