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Does being shy take away relationships?
I'm still very young, only in 10th grade, but I'm curious. Ok... I don't go to dances b/c I don't ask girls out b/c I'm fairly shy (I don't think I'm ugly so that is not a reason), I think grinding at dances is dumb but somehow I think I'm in the minority, I get to know people which leads to friends and not gfs. On the positive, once you get to know me and I open up I'm funny, I'm soft spoken, athletic, and get good grades. I know you ppl will think, "You were in 8th grade, I hear this all the time and you're wrong!" Well, I don't just ask girls out so for me to do it means a lot. In 8th grade, I feel in love with this girl. Long story short, she calls it off awhile later and I'm still not really over it (I've haven't had a gf since). I tried as hard as I could to set things up to meet up with her and we did every week. We never did that much (held hands blah blah blah 1st kiss no love making kinky stuff). Much later I found out that I was dumped bc it was awkward and... I'm confused. If I was a girl and saw a good guy with a great personality trying his hardest to show you a good time and that he loves you and never did you wrong then I'd think, "That's the one, the person I want to spend my life with who will always love me." Nope... maybe I'm missing a piece of the woman puzzle. So, I have come to the lovely ladies of Yahoo! Answers to evaluate on this and maybe give some advice. And one more thing... sympathy isn't needed and I don't want a feel good story of someone else.
THANKS!!!!
I've moved on it just always crosses my mind but I wasn't clingy. That part about spending life together was very extreme and I wasn't being serious but that's my fault.
THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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- LilyRTLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
not sure if this is a "feel good story of someone else" but I married a shy guy who had good grades. I'm socially awkward so a shy guy was exactly what I was looking for. he dropped the phone twice when he called to ask me out, and I was flattered that anyone would be that nervous asking me out.
in the end, it depends on the girl. a lot of girls worth having like shy guys. and in a way, a lot of girls that are trouble go after "party guys" so though it may be hard to see it that way, you're avoiding some headaches.
- 8 years ago
"If I was a girl and saw a good guy with a great personality trying his hardest to show you a good time and that he loves you and never did you wrong then I'd think, "That's the one, the person I want to spend my life with who will always love me." "
It's understandable that she wasn't in love and thinking about growing old and dying with you. You were both in middle school. I cannot think of ANY relationships that began in middle school and survived. It's been two years. Trying to set up happenstances between you will just come off as annoying or desperate.
From what I read, maybe she thought you were clingy or trying too hard. It's best if you move on and find someone else because you are wasting your time pursuing someone who isn't as attached to you as you are to them.
