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Ladies Only: Where should I come when I pull out? What's acceptable and what isn't?

I've been married for 16 years. My wife doesn't want to go back on the pill - the hormones make her crazy. I refuse to get snipped. So, we're dealing with condoms and it is a huge turn-off for me. I want to try the pull-out method, but I've never had to do this in my current relationships or relationships before. Pull-out should be reasonably effective since we're both in our early 40s and shouldn't be as "potent" as years past.

My question is, where is it "acceptable" to finish and where isn't? What's the "standard"??? I assume stomach and breasts are fair game but no face? How has that worked in your sex life?

I'm not going to ask my wife on where I'm allowed to finish - that seems nerdy and passive like I'm not taking charge. I know, it's stupid, but I like to do my research.

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  • 7 years ago
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    You should be aware that the withdrawal method has a dismal record for preventing pregnancy. Even if you successfully pull out before your climax, small amounts of seminal fluid leak out ahead of that moment, and can cause a pregnancy. Then there's the frustration aspect of not being able to complete the encounter in a natural and satisfying way for either partner.

    There are a number of other methods of contraception, some rather newly developed. They should be part of your research on the topic.

    However, if you really want to try this method, and are prepared to deal with an "accidental" pregnancy, I'd suggest you have a small hand towel ready, and ejaculate into that, off to the side, not directly onto your wife.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    well you could talk to her about a female condom or the implanon. If she isn't into that then maybe talk to a doctor.

    You can still get pregnant at that age, my mum had my sister when she was 40. Even if you pull out there is still a chance.

    But to answer your question specifically, i would do stomach but that's me personally. Make sure to have tissues around to clean up quickly. Some women don't mind breasts, but maybe ask her, as a woman i wouldn't find it nerdy or passive to be asked that. Actually i would get annoyed if my boyfriend came on a part of my body that i didn't like without asking.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    Lower back/ behind, breasts, and stomach are hotspots, and if you want to come on her face/ in her mouth make sure you ask her first as some girls have lines they will not cross. Try talking to your wife about where she is comfortable having you finish off at.

    Tip: always have a towel within easy reach.

    Source(s): Experience
  • 7 years ago

    Stomach and breasts. That way they know where you left it. Most women hate getting it in their hair, so the face is taking a chance of causing dissatisfaction.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    Finish in her mouth. And she can get her tubes tied ?

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