What type of girl do guys look for? (Guys only!!)?

Hi Yaya. You have listed various "problems" there, all of which might affect how a lad feels towards you. The first one is when you mention how asking for help makes you feel weak. Really it should make you feel the opposite. Because you cannot do something might mean that you have never, or hardly ever, performed a task, and so you have no idea how to do it. Asking for help shows that you are strong enough to admit that, rather than trying to hide the fact and should there be a chance of people or friends then teasing you about not being able to do it, then at least you are "big enough" to take that treatment.

Why do you have to be rude etc? What does that actually gain? If you treat a person well then they are far more likely to become a friend, but if you are disrespectful then you might well insult somebody who might have been the best friend possible to have. I know that everybody goes through a rebellious age, and I guess that you are at that stage in your life, but as you know what you are like why not try and control yourself? You are at least big enough to have come on here asking for help, but why not then try out what you get as suggestions - surely there would be nothing to loose if you were a little more polite and friendly. Also give being a stronger person, and admitting when you need help. Who knows what the result might be - at least it would not have any negative affect!

Good luck.

Richard

Girls who are into the tattoos and piercing and hairstyles... generally have daddy issues. So what you should consider doing is building a better relationship with your family... rather then at 14... run to a guy for security.

And again, admitting to trust issues... or commitment issues and keep in mind... you are only 14 years old. I could understand if you're 28 or something and you've been paying bills and working and whatever... and then you get screwed over.

But, to answer your question...

Here's an easy way to become very desirable.

My first recommendation to you is this and it's so easy. Work out. Now, when I say work out. Get a good body. You know how when some girls wear yoga pants and there butt looks shaped (even if your butt is flat, you can shape it through exercising)... and the body looks kind of muscular. And make sure to work out your entire body.

That's what you should do. it's such an easy way to get guys to like you. And since 4'11 is a very cute height for girls. A good body + the short height is VERY desirable.

Then the only other physical thing I can think of is... use your facial features to your advantage. So if you're kind of pale. Dark hair or dark red hair looks good against pale skin.

Or if you have big eyes... make sure when you use make up to put emphasis on big eyes. Because big eyes are attractive on women...

Yeah, you're going to be unapproached for a long time with that going on.

I'm a guy, much older than you but still a guy, and I know how we think. The girl we like the most is the girl that is attracted to us, and most of that other stuff you said is completely negotiable and a far distant second. Except for that one thing, because that thing gets in the way.

You said you're only nice to 2 people, nice "when you get to know me" and trust issues, and that's going to kill your dating life. No matter what your other features are, you're too closed off and shut down to attract very many guys. Guys look at those personality traits, and they see nothing but drama and more drama if they become your boyfriend. That's a turn off for most guys.

If you're attracted to a guy and he knows it (he has to know, guessing or suspecting isn't good enough), he'll think you're the prettiest smartest and sexiest girl in town. I don't care if every other girl he knows is a bikini-super-model, they're nothing compared to you. You know all that stuff you heard about thrill of the chase and how you can't just let us know? That's all bull shift. We think like predators, and predators only chase what they can catch.

But with your shutdown-ness, it's like you have a huge wall built around you or a sign that says "get the hell away from me" around your neck. I have no idea why you have those issues or how you can overcome them, but you need to free yourself from it before most guys will even come near you.

Physically attractive, although not actually necessary in the long run. Remember each man has his own preference, same as women.

Confident but not over confident, fun to be around. Intelligent.

Strangely enough, us men seem to search for something very similar to what you women look for.

You gotta have nice A S S and be good in bed and over 18 no exceptions

Girls that are over the age of 18.

Now go back to playing with your Barbie dolls.