Next step after a casual date? Do not want to go too slow, or too fast.?

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So here are the details for those of you interested:
- I met some girl at a networking party/event
- We both happened to speak up/present at the event
- We met up in the lobby afterwards and complimented each other on presentations. I asked her to casually grab some drinks with me sometime, so we can chat some more. She accepted, and gave me her number.
- I texted her a few days to schedule it. She initially couldn't really find time and gave a wishy-washy answer, but after asking her for a straight answer, we agreed upon a quick dinner at a casual dining place.

So now, what's next? I think she's somewhat interested. If this first casual "date" goes well, should I be prepared to ask her to go out again sometime on another simple dinner date. Or should I keep it slow, not mention the word date, and ask her for coffee or drinks again sometime.

Also, do you think she "sees" or "realizes" that this first casual meeting is a "date"?

As always, thank you for your responses.

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You're overthinking.  Yes, she realizes it's a date.    Instead of trying to enjoy yourself and getting to know her, you're planning out your first date in order to get a second.  It reeks of desperation and is a turnoff.

Make believe you are seeing her this one night and never again.   Just go out and have fun.   At the end of the dinner, you should have a pretty good idea of how it went and if you want to see her again.    If so, you can always call her to thank her for the company and judge from her response if it sounds like she wants to do it again.

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Go to dinner. Drop her off, no kissy. Call the next day and tell her you had a good time. Say no more. Call in a few days and ask her out. You'll know what to do after that.

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Next step after a casual date? Do not want to go too slow, or too fast.?

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