How can I get my husband to take care of himself?

When I was younger, I was like that to some extent. When my father died of a heart attack, reality hit home. He has to grow up before you have a child with him. Does he want his child to be like this? Have the talk with him and if he is unwilling to change, then I would consider finding someone else to have a child with.

Bad oral hygiene leads to other health issues.

He may be your husband but it sounds like he's still a kid in many ways. And unfortunately you're going to have to play the "mother" role and make sure he does shower, brush his teeth, and eat balanced meals.

As far as having a stressful job - get him a punching bag. Let him take his frustrations out on that. Find a home exercise program that includes kick boxing to the routines.

Have you ever asked your husband if he was ready for kids? Just because you are doesn't mean he is. And if he feels stressed out from his job as is, adding a baby and the additional expenses sure won't help any.

If he is stressed at work hold off on a baby. my ex-husband has gum issues and refused to brush his teeth in the mind frame that they would fall out anyways. I tried many ways to get him to brush and it was an on going agruement. His stubborness at one small daily activity for his own health and appearance should have tipped me off. His insistance that he was right and nothing I could say or do to show him the obvious was going to change that. Two children, a short and mentally abusive (controlling) marriage, several cases of child abuse and a long and agonizing divorce later I wish I would have just left him then. Your situation is different.I'm sure but, try to keep an eye on it before you have a life time to raise a child into an adult with someone who can't be bothered with brushing their teeth.

once my husband ate an egg with a row yolk and got salmonella. because doctors are really idiots he was one week with temperature around 41 Celsius lying in bed. guess what - every day in the evening he was taking a shower and brushing his teeth and in the morning he was brushing his teeth AND SHAVING. every day. I asked why on earth re u shaving? u re not going anywhere. he said I don't want u to look at me like that. so here. not ALL men re like this. also my children (the elder one is 21, so almost the same as your husband) take shower every day TWICE - morning and evening and brush teeth at least once in the evening, but normally also in the morning. I think this is just upbringing. the whole my family can not imagine going to bed dirty. I personally wouldn't stand a man who does not keep his hygiene. I had been dating before getting married - none of my former boyfriends were as pigs as your husband. where did u even find him? yew

I keep next toothbrush and toothpaste in the shower so at least I know that I have to brush my teeth before I leave the house every morning.

That's why he married you to take care of him. Sounds like your making a good effort . Stop

Kissing him if his teeth are dirty take control of his life and he will hate you for it . Tell him what to do, put him on a diet , and make sure he knows your not really loving him the way he is, but that he's just your project your new makeover toy. Why did you marry him if you didn't like him the way he was ?

suggest that he see a doctor about all his issues. Tell him how you feel and how it is affecting your relationship.