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how do i know if it was rape?
So i was at a party.. and i was drinking... and the guy wasnt drinking and he didnt do any drugs hes a sober nut, and he was completly sober.. i was out of it after having 2 1/2 beers.... and he brought me upstairs and had sex with me.. i didnt say no but i was kind of afraid too and i just really wanted it to get over with. after he was like " ahh good now lets go to sleep" and i stood up and put my clothes on and walked out of the room and i went and layed with one of my friends and i cried for like 2 hours.... i never said no but i never said yes.. is it still considered rape? :[ I really hate myself and i feel like its my fault.
Im not going to bring him to court or anything. I just want to know. you guys dont need to be so rude about it.
Im not going to bring him to court or anything. I just want to know. you guys dont need to be so rude about it.
8 Answers
- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
No it's not considered rape, because if you knew what was happening you could have screamed or walked away.
- ?Lv 77 years ago
How is someone out of it after 2 1/2 beers? Do you weigh 60 lbs?
1. You didn't make it known that you didn't want to. Not saying anything or pushing him away or anything wasn't the best idea.
2. Unless he was threatening you and that's why you were afraid to say anything, see 1.
So while I do think he took advantage I don't really consider this rape. Next time, speak up or don't drink around strangers.
- ?Lv 57 years ago
Well you didn't physically push him away and you didn't actually say no....so....no I don't think it was rape. It's your fault and your lack of responsibility for being "out of it" in the first place!! I hope you learned your lesson and you won't do it again. I think you hate yourself so much and you feel guilty so much that you want to point the blame all on him and make it seem like he raped you. It was not rape. You let it happen by drinking those beers, hon. So get over it, suck it up, and don't do it again.
Source(s): College Student - 7 years ago
I know girls who do get drunk off of 2.5 beers, most guys won't really think you were drunk off of that. He might of thought you were okay with it and thought you knew what you were doing. It doesn't sound like rape, more like a misunderstanding since you didn't say no.
Source(s): Me - 7 years ago
hmmm, you were aware of what you were doing, it was your choice to do it, plus you said yes and wanted to get it over with? Doesn't sound like rape to me hun. Who was to say he knew you were drinking? I am sorry you feel bad, but this isn't rape dear
Source(s): Next time think before you act /: - 7 years ago
Why didn't you say no or push him away? Was he forcing you? Or being aggressive ? Next time stand up for yourself! Don't be a push over! I don't know exactly what happened so I don't know if it was rape or not. good luck
- idkwhocaresLv 67 years ago
Um no... 2 and a half beers is nothing. You were pretty aware of everything so no sorry. That's not gonna work. It's either yes!! Or NO!!!
- 7 years ago
You didn't consent, you were out of it and he took advantage of that. This is not your fault, please talk to somebody *hugs* you don't deserve to feel bad at all, what happened to you was horrific and you need support
Sex with somebody who doesn't want it is rape, please don't listen to people saying the fact you were drinking justifies it because it doesn't. It's wrong.
