Competition with my pregnant friend?

I told a few close friends my husband and I were expecting our first born and everyone was thrilled. A few weeks later my friend Ashley came to visit for the weekend with her husband and another couple who we are friends with. While she was hear she announced to everyone she was also pregnant. We were all very happy for her and I was excited to have a fellow pregnant friend to share the experience of pregnancy 'with' even though we live in different states. An issue has now began where any comment I make about my pregnancy is turned in to a competition by Ashley. She is 4 weeks further along than me so she felt the baby move before I did. She has had 1 more ultra sound than I have so far. I feel like every time I comment something positive or 'good news' she has an 'already been there done that not interested in your good news comment' for me. When she gives me news I say positive things and try hard not mention my pregnancy to 'take away' from her news at the time. It is just hard because it gets old and I fear it will only increase when the baby is here. The most offensive thing that has happened to me so far is hearing from a mutual friend that Ashley was 'bad mouthing' me for giving up my career to become a stay at home mom. This is something I have wanted my whole life. I loved my career and will stay up to date on my license so I can return down the road. I do not comment on her decision to put her child in day care. That is her choice and she knows what is best for her family. I am just hurt she has said negative things about me being a stay at home mom. Including: 'I don't know what she will do all day' 'I would get so bored sitting around' 'Must be nice to live off your husband'. The comment about living off my husband was the most hurtful because we have saved and planned for this since we got married and I also have a hobby/side job that I do for extra cash in my free time. I just feel like I am unable to talk to the person who was going to be my 'pregnancy pal' because giving her information makes her judge me to other friends. I want to ask her to respect my choices but I fear she just will never understand and will continue this behavior.