If a wife/gf makes more than their spouse/bf and she is more educated shouldn't she make the decisions?

I think in most cases yes. If she's more educated and has the better career she is probably better in most practical matters. A husband and wife work as a team but things often work better if you have a team leader.

I notice that these days most women are thriving in advancing in their education and careers where many guys are struggling and in need of a sense of purpose and direction. So if a more qualified woman assumes the lead in the relationship and sets the direction then I see that as only benefiting the both of them.

Men and women both struggle with this because it goes against tradition. But for you and I it's just common sense that the woman would take the lead to the benefit of the couple and for society as a whole.

Education level nor income level means you're more qualified to make the decisions. The problem is you think one person should be making the decisions alone. Living together, key word being together, means each person should have equal input. Sure if one person is better with numbers, let them handle anything with numbers, etc. But that doesn't mean you take it upon yourself and leave the other out of it. Of the relationships I've seen fail in my social circles throughout life, it's always because one person thinks they're better than the other, think that since they're "smarter" that they should be handling things.... Doesn't work that way, it just makes the other feel stupid, unappreciated and resentful. Every successful relationship is based on teamwork, making choices together.

For a marriage to be successful, both parties have to feel they are being treated how they want. Some people are fine with their spouse making all the decisions; most are not.

I make much more than my husband, and have a much higher education level. But we are partners in life, so definitely for all the big decisions, and usually on the small ones, we make them together. I'm not his mom.

It depends on the decision. Major decisions that affect both parties or the household should be discussed by both parties to reach an agreement. The thinking that $ and education rules a household will get you in a line for divorce quicker than anything.

If you value a mutual relationship, you'll make decisions together. You can even decide together what decisions you'll make, and what decisions will be his to make! If you were a business and a hierarchy, sure, you go make all the decisions and he can just follow along, since you're the boss. If you're a romantic partnership and you value each other, you should both be involved in making important decisions. Unless you just like having power and want to own him--then go for it but he might not appreciated being treated with contempt.

If I could ever find a wife like that, I'd be fine with her making the decisions. As long as she didn't try to decide that I couldn't play golf 5 times a week.

I think that is a terrible way to have a realitonship. You should make decisions together. And just because you make more money or have a better education does not mean your smarter. If you dont value your husband then you dont deserve him.

I say no, because when your in a Relationship your in it together. Your a team you work out problems in relationships and then you both plan your wedding, you both want the other to be happy. It's this love called phileo love. Now you ask yor self if you truley agape this person. If you do you work as a team, plan as a team, ad make decisions as a team. No male or female should just one final say in a relationship.

I personally think it is the mans place to make the decisions. I'm not sure of your religion but a man needs that or you can make him feel unworthy. Plus what happens when a woman starts making all the calls she is really losing because she can't feel taken care of and cherished the way she should be. He will eventually find a woman who makes him feel important and needed and men love that. Let him fulfill his inner man and walk with him not ahead of him.

If she is a GF, she can make any decision she wants and so can he. If they are married, they need to make decisions together or the marriage will fail.