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how do you cope with husband gone for a month?

My husband is a chef and will be going on a month long internship. I can't go with him because of school and work. I think that it's too early for such a separation. We just got married 6 months ago. I'm full of anxiet, fear, sadness, etc. When I think of him leaving. I've told him how I feel but I try not to talk abou t it with him too much because I don't want to upset him with how upset I him. I don't want him to feel bad. Part of me feels like, if he loved me as much as I love him...how can he leave? I know that's not a good thought so I don't mention it.

Any ladies/guys have tips on coping with being separated from your husband/wife?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    I think you could take a look at the situation from a much different perspective.

    It seems you're making the month long separation all about YOU and how terrible it is for YOU.

    Well, the truth is, the internship is about him his future, your future, his career and livelihood. How can he leave? Men are logical thinkers and he is doing this because logically, it is an opportunity for him to improve his chances of getting a better job so that he might be able to support a family. You will ultimately benefit from any educational improvement your husband makes.

    A separation won't hurt you. I'm sure you've been together more than the six months you have been married. You know him, trust him and i hope trust his judgment to do what's best for you and your futures.... if so, stop moping around and feeling sorry for yourself.

    You said you are attending school and that you also work, so it seems to me you have a lot to do to occupy your time. When you have free time, spend it with family or friends when you can - or do something for yourself that you have wanted to do. For example, if you've always wanted to go to the art museum, but haven't, then do it! Make the best of your time.

    You can also keep a photo journal of your month if you want. Take pictures, write about your day. It is something to keep you busy.

    You are fortunate to have someone in your life who loves you. Some of us have no one. Remember that.

  • Kate
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    My husband and I lived apart for about four years in our marriage. I saw him every other weekend. We just had to do it for work. Talk on the phone, skype and be in touch every day. Tell him the small things that are going on in your life like who you had lunch with and how silly the waitress was at the restaurant you and your best friend went too. Keeping in touch over the small things makes you feel closer. It sucks to have to do this, but in the scheme of a life long marriage, a month is just a month.

  • 7 years ago

    well im almost done with a month of not seeing my bf i know i can't compare to husband and wife but were both 23 and been together for over a year - its rough but you just need to stay busy and work on your life. see your friends and have fun.

    i completely understand why he is leaving and you should too it's only a month and this is good for him you should want him to leave

  • 7 years ago

    My ex used to bang Marines when I'd deploy, and that was for over a month at times... under a month too.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    start an affair with a handsome guy.

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