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IDK asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 7 years ago

Moving alone with no support and difficult family?

Hi, I posted this question in the wrong section earlier. I just turned 26 years old and am really miserable, depressed. I grew up with an alcoholic father and really angry bitter mother which caused a lot of dysfunction. My sister became mentally ill because of all the stress, my brother got into a lot of trouble when he was younger. I just stayed quiet and tried to be good. They don't speak English and relied on my on paying bills, translating, and etc. I worked and went to school fulltime and managed my parents finances along with my own. My dad stopped working and went on disability my mom was already on disability and my brother was not working. I had enough I took a semester away all the while my mom would put financial pressure on me. I came back with no intention to stay and go an internship that turned into a job with my own apartment but that wasn't good enough for my parents and I didn't like my boss so I moved back to help them and try to find something better. As soon as I moved back I realized why I left I moved out of state again while trying to "make it" on my own and handling all of their financial obligations. Then they taught my dad had lung cancer so I moved back to help them again and take him to the doctor's and etc. because he didn't want to go, turned out to be nothing. I'm in a job I hate, my mom puts me down, and now I'm financially strained. I don't know what to do I'm so miserable. I started seeing a therapist she says my mom is emotionally abusive she insults me, any friendships I've had, lists my failures, and put her financial and marriage problems on me.I have no where to go no sympathy or support from my sister or brother. I want to move but I feel so alone and I don't know if I could do it again I'm so emotionally drained.

Update:

Oh and my dad now says I can't move until I'm married.

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  • 7 years ago
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    Oh dear,

    Well... I personally have a great family, so I definitely am not fit to answer your question with thorough understanding of the matter.

    Dear friend, you're 26, yes. That makes it all clear that you are strong. You have been pulling it all along, by yourself. Be proud! I read your difficult, and sad case several times, but failed to understand your question. There appears to be no certain question. All I felt was that you need someone to talk to. Well I am here :) I would love to have someone to talk to, so add me up and lets make a hell of a friend out of this :)

    If not, and you're not interested, I would try my best to make the best out of this. You could read several books to put you on ease. You see, books not only transform your world but also teach you a lesson. My recommendation is books written by Eckhart Tolle, and my favorite book is "the power of now".

    Please do add me as I look forward to this friendship :)

  • Jenn
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    You are 26. Your father legally has no ability to tell you what you can and can't do. Family issues are tough, because you feel obligated to help, but this situation is not healthy for you. My advice would be to find a job you would be happier doing in an area far enough away from them, that they are not able to be a part of your day to day life. They clearly do not value you, and are using you for their financial needs

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Mentally prepare urself and youl be able to move out.its not fair on you. Go online and research voluntary organizations that helps people in abusive situations. And build your confidence up.

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