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Should i walk away even though i love him ?

I been dating this guy for about 4 months. Im having issues as to whether I should stay or end things with him. I feel like he always has excuses on why he's not spending time with me. He always says are work schedules get in the way too. I work overnight and he's a bus driver that works evening shift. But I feel like he dosent even try. He tells me to give him some time and I been waiting. He doesn't call me barely and when he does its late at night when he's outside. I question why he only can talk to me outside and he says he dosent like being on his phone in the house. Hes still married because he says his wife doesn't wanna sign the divorce papers. But my gut is telling me that his wife still lives with him and their kids. I asked him about it and says they don't live together and that he lives with his people. I recently found him talking to other females in his phone and we had a big argument about that. I love him and he said he loves me but im not happy. And im hurting.

Update:

Also, he was recently supposed to come spend time with me at my house when I got off work. I switched my work schedule so that I could accommodate his schedule and he doesn't show up or call and doesn't answer my calls but when I ask him about it he says I don't know why I didn't call or come.

Update 2:

I did give him a ultimatum and he said he would change . That was about a month ago and its the same thing over and over again. Him not changing and me still staying with him.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    This might sound harsh but i in no way intend it to be. I think you should take him aside and talk to him one day, and give him an ultimatum; he can either spend more time with you or you're breaking up. If he doesnt change; break things off because you deserve better

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Deep down you know the right answer. At this stage of a relationship he should either be really interested in you, and you would know it, or something is missing. It is not in your long term best interests to force something that doesn't sound like it was meant to be.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    brake up with him show him what he is missing make him jealus and then maybe he will want to get back together with you and then he will make his wife divorce him

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