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How often should I pay for my girlfriend?
We've been dating for 6 months, and I always pay. This is not on her though, because I always offer an insist to pay. She does work part time and reels in about $150 a week on average (server). Sometimes she insists to pay the tip when we go out to eat, but I always like to pay because I have been raised that the guy pays, plain and simple. For instance, I took her out to a very nice dinner for our 6 month and ended up dropping $100 on a dinner for 2.
We are both in college, but I am working a payed internship right now and make decent money for a college kid. Once this internship ends though, I'm back to a broke college kid and I can't continue to spend on her like I have. I have already told her I'd like to eat in more and cook, which she has been perfectly fine with, but I still spend a lot going out to eat with her and what not.
She tends to have expensive taste and isn't much of a money saver, and when I'm not making money, I tend to spend very little money. I guess what I'm asking is what a good compromise would be so I cut my spending, because it definitely isn't sustainable once my internship ends.
6 Answers
- Anonymous7 years agoFavorite Answer
Either swallow your pride and let her pay her own way now and then, or start cutting back on how often you go out and come up with free or cheap alternatives. She obviously doesn't have a problem with it, this issue is mostly in your own head.
- 5 years ago
Man I am in a similar position. I saved up $1800 working over the summer and when soccer season came around with school I cut back on hours big time. So instead of $400 pay checks I was at around $120. Putting gas in my car every week ($25) and eating out 2 or 3 times a week ($20-$30 each), really put me in the hole. Let's say I took around $700 out of my saving account since we started dating. I try to pay, whenever I can afford it, but I will let her buy little stuff like $15 McDonald's drive through runs and what not sometimes. Have that talk with your girl and tell her what needs to happen
- Anonymous7 years ago
oh honey, you will not like this, but she is not a very good gf or a person...
if you are such a guy that you cannot stand to let you gf pick up the tab she should have told you, look, i know if you could you would pay for everything, but here take this money and and then you pay...if my man had problems with me paying i would say, here's the money for tonight, or she can like pay your rent...if the guy is like im not taking that money...then im like...fine, great we're never going out again...or simply she can pay your rent or your whatever she can give you the money she earns...if my bf payed for everything we do, i'd give him my 150 a week...
she is really such a user...
dude, you are behaving like a husband, not even wives spend as much as they want, we spend as much as we can afford as a couple---
plus you don't have any perks of a husband that is the breadwinner...you know like geisha wife, lol...
a woman likes to pamper her husband after he comes home from work...live out gfs not so much...
what's in it for you i ask you....
lol but in all seriousness, she is not a good gf...you deserve better...
i dunno...i would be very frustrated if i was you...i guess you are too that's why you are asking...
since when uni kids go out so much and at posh places...so WRONG
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i disagree with feldspar, if she wanted, really wanted she would make you at ease with her paying..she likes exploiting your hunter instinct, if she did not, she would find a way to share int he costs with you even if you are the kind of man that is more comfortable with giving than receiving...
deep down you know she is a user, otherwise you would not be asking this question...i say dump her...chalk it up to learning and start learning to receive as well as give
look i love your hunter instinct, but honey, you cannot just go out and kill some dollars...you need a reasonable gf...is she really blind???she must be blind and deaf and dumb...
date a feminist...but not a faux feminist they are the worst...
Source(s): i too have trouble receivng, we should try.... - 7 years ago
You should also alow her to pay from time to time. Maybe you can also talk about money in general and such topics. Get to know her. You do not want to be with a girl who only wants to take but is not prepared to make any contributions herself. Money is an important part of any relationship.
- ?Lv 77 years ago
Be honest with her and tell her your concerns for future dating. If she's into you, she will understand and perhaps start buying food to eat in, and an occassional cheap night out.
