Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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About a month ago a female friend and I stopped talking cause she brought up an old conversation we had about our feelings for each other. I told her that I still love her with all my heart and want to be with her but if she doesn't feel that way about me that's fine cause I would rather have her in my life as a friend then not have her in my life at all. Later on in the day she called me and said I should have never told her that even though she brought it up and said we shouldn't talk anymore nor hang out, at first it hurt me beyond belief but now my feelings have changed. Now I don't miss her anymore and I'm actually starting to despise her but I'm also feeling a little regret for the way I feel now. Am I wrong for feeling this way just because she said we shouldn't see each other anymore? I tell myself that maybe she brought up the topic just to start an argument which kind of helps me feel a little better about the way I feel.

postal p · Accepted Answer

You went too far.  She may have been looking for more than friendship.  You shocked her.

Jordan · Answer

I don't think that you should let her sour your emotions. It sounds to me like she was afriad of leading you on and felt that the best way to prevent that would be to sever ties. I'm not saying that by any means it was right,  I think that there are much better ways for her to have dealt with it. I think that it's only natural for you to feel this way, its ok for a little while to feel this way, but harboring strong negative feelings like you said you have towards her will only cause you to bitter a little bit. Especially if she did it on purpose like you said, to start an argument, she is not worth your time. So I think it's ok for now, as long you don't let your feelings fester and sour you up.

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Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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