How do I let my anger out safely?

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I've had anger management issues since I was younger. I'm seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. I also have Depression and Anxiety. Though, I scare myself sometimes. I catch myself thinking about killing a guy that bullied me for 2 1/2 years, and I sit behind another guy that used to bully me, but not an 1/8 of how badly the other guy treated me, and I just imagine myself reaching my hands around his neck and strangling him at times. For the first guy I mentioned though, he caused me so much fear, pain, humiliation, anger... Even after he's done being mean to me (I think he's done...) he's really obnoxious with his friends and disrespectful to teachers he doesn't like and stuff, and I still have to hold myself back so I don't beat the sh*t out of him. I just want to know a healthy way to get over all the anger he's caused me, so I don't do anything bad or reckless. I really don't want to be a bad person.

Sunrise · Answer

What an uplifting note!  You have made my day!

The therapist and psychiatrist will help you to release the old memories, filing them away without their emotional charge any longer.

And, moving forward, you can develop a compassion practice if you like.  (See the works of Thich Nhat Hahn).  Every night, say to yourself:

"May I be safe. May I be healthy. May I be happy. May I be free."

Then continue to family members. "May my mother be safe. May she be healthy. May she be happy. May she be free."  Do each family member.

Do every friend. Do whole groups. And then do your enemies.

This is a hard practice.  But you would be AMAZED at how it changes your body/mind chemistry in 30 days once you start sending compassionate thoughts to those who have hurt you.

What a wonderful, mature, insightful note!

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