Hubby is Christian and I was raised Jewish?

You can't reason with someone who you say is crazed, mean and irrational. The problem with her isn't religion, dear, it's all about her and her life, her feelings, her control over everything. It has nothing to do with you, your children, your feelings or your family. That's why you call her a narcissist. She's always been mean, she's always been angry. So there is no reasoning with her about this.

Why do you even have a relationship with her??. Sorry, but your husband and children come first in your life after God. Your mom can't have any positive influence on your family. So why do you let her around you? It's not about forgiveness, mercy, love, etc. It should be about protecting your family from someone who has no good influence or feeligns for you.

I'm an atheist, but I would suggest first that you avoid exposing yourself to more stress. I recommend minimizing contact with your mother. Her neurosis and rage will not make her a loving grandmother to your children who at best will be confused by the situation. I would suggest talking to a professional child psychologist or your social services offices for referrals. I'm sure that there are Internet forums or groups that deal with this problem, but I don't know of any personally.

Wishing you success and a Happy New Year.

regardless of what religion you are..no one should be in control over your life except you & god. not even your husband has full control over you...only in things unto the lord.

hanukkah isnt a biblical holiday. its more like jewish folk put that week in place of xmas.

if anything...jewish folk are outdated...sorry but..if you consider christ the messiah..then jewish folk arent with the program.

there are 2 ways to shut your mother up...cut her out of your life...or..why dont you go messianic jewish? basically christ & the first 12 started the messianic christian jew thing sicne tehy're jews but developed christianity.

im messianic jew myself. i keep the feast days of the jews..bu without..sacrifices. jesus is our ultimate & final one. no need for more & keep the 7th day saturday sabbath. (the 7da religion is another good one..but they say feast days/new moons are nailed to the cross..not just the sacrifice ceremonies) maybe this would smooth things over wtih your mom..provided you feel that she's worth the time?

Gods Word states this fact, few seem to ever consider nor ever come to learn ; For he is not a Jew, which is one outwardly; neither is that circumcision, which is outward in the flesh:

But he is a Jew, which is one inwardly; and circumcision is that of the heart, in the spirit, and not in the letter; whose praise is not of men, but of God.

Jesus said, “Truly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or lands, for my sake and for the gospel, who will not receive a hundredfold now in this time, houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions, and in the age to come eternal life. Mark 10:29, 30

And he said to them, “Truly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who will not receive many times more in this time, and in the age to come eternal life.” Luke 18:29, 30

Jews were meant to become Christians by eternal design. .