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Is it wrong to date someone you don't think you'll marry?

I'm 19 years old and just started dating my boyfriend (24 years old) a couple months ago. We make each other happy. It's a complicated relationship and we communicate about nearly everything and we want to be together right now. We both know that the relationship might not last some coming conflicts, but we're ok just being friends if it comes down to it. Neither of us want that though... at least not in the near future.

The problem is I don't think I could marry him. Yeah he makes me happy right now... I love being with him. But in the long run I don't think our goals would match up and I don't think I could. Part of me says I'm only 19 and it's ok if I don't think I'm going to marry the guy... but another part wonders if I should stop wasting our time. It's just conflicting.

Is it wrong for me to date someone I don't think I could marry or be with in the long run?

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  • K
    Lv 6
    7 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    No it's not wrong. I've dated a few people I knew I wasn't going to end up marrying. You're only 19, you shouldn't be worrying about marriage right now. You should worry about dating and having fun still. I am nearing 23 and I am happily single. If I get a boyfriend, that's fine and if not, that's fine too. Since you're still young, you don't need to rush marriage. It will come in time or you might feel that you're comfortable not marrying at all, but just having a long-term relationship. Date all you want, don't worry about marriage until you're my age lol.

  • 7 years ago

    If you and he don't have the same goals, and neither of you are willing to be flexible on your goals and still be happy then it may be best to just be friends while that is still an option. The longer you are together the harder it will be to make a clean, friendly break. The goal of dating is to test out personalities and goals an find someone to have a life with. If you both agree life is not the goal then I would say that time is being wasted along with the possibility of having an enjoyable lasting life long friendship.

  • 7 years ago

    You're 19 why are you worrying about marriage? If it bothers you this much then maybe it is best to just be friends. You've barely started a relationship and you guys have an expiration date? It better to not start something you expect to end, it usually means you are wasting your time so don't think to much about whether or not you'll break up just think about how you two can work better together.

  • 7 years ago

    We are social creatures, and we all want to have someone special in our lives, whether it's a forever, long-term relationship or "iffy" and unsure of the future or outcome.

    We are taking a chance with every relationship and even friendship we enter into, but why not take a chance and enjoy yourself RIGHT NOW?

    Living right now and with presence is a great alternative to making catastrophe predictions for the future. At least, i think so.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    Well you don't really need to just cut the relationship, you don't know what he thinks. If you are asking to make things right then let him know things like "I'm not even close of thinking in marriage". You are just 19. If you were like 30 that would be a different story.

  • 7 years ago

    Personally i think your dating someone too old lol, you should date around your age cause your interests will clash, unless you are more mature then your age, but either way if i could start over i wouldn't marry someone right away and if you feel like hes someone u can't see yourself with in the long run there's probably a good reason why you feel that way, find someone you feel like you can spend your life with.

  • 7 years ago

    your 19 have some fun, you dont need to get serious for years

  • 7 years ago

    Does he want to get married? If yes, then leave. If he doesn't care either way then do whatever you want.

  • 7 years ago

    Ya. If you're a girl and you do it, it shows you're a loose personality.

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